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Look At My Shiny Identity

March 19, 2023 84 Comments

Via Mr Muldoon, a tale of what sounds like mid-life contrivance:

I told my husband I now use they and them pronouns after 15 years together. We are both learning how not to misgender me.

Imagine the fun.

The contriver in question is Amanda Elend, a scrupulously progressive woman whose list of causes is extensive, if somewhat predictable. She tells us,

My partner and I got married over a decade ago, knowing we might end up hating each other.

Ah, the basis of any sound marriage.

We understood people grew and that sometimes meant growing apart. But still, we thought our chances were good. Fifteen years later, we’re still happily married, but boy, did we grow. I now identify as a bisexual, nonbinary person, and my family is learning to adapt. 

Coinciding, oddly enough, with the big four-oh:

At first, it was difficult to reconcile the fact that I’m bisexual and nonbinary at 40 years old. It felt like I was co-opting a label designated for younger generations. But it all felt right; they weren’t labels. They were my identity. 

The idea of having an identity – one with boutique status and complications that have to be danced around in an affirming manner – is terribly important to Ms Elend. And as we’ve seen, self-definition is very in right now, and quite competitive. Plus, there’s so much potential for chiding and rituals of atonement:

[My husband] is still working to understand the complexities of my identity, but I know that he is trying. For example, he recently apologised for not defaulting to “they” when he talked about me.

Ms Elend’s children, aged six and nine, were also informed of their mother’s elevation to the role of Fascinating Being:

I suddenly decided to tell my kids in the car one day. They were in their booster seats in the back, and my partner was driving.

The word husband is used intermittently. Sometimes it’s partner.

Looking awkwardly back at them, I told them I never wanted to stop growing or getting to know myself and I recently realised that I’m nonbinary. I also told them that if I weren’t with their dad, I now knew that I would be open to relationships with those like me and those who’re different.

“Can we still call you mom?” my 9-year-old asked.

You see, every small child wants a mom whose new pronouns have to be memorised, and who reveals that their family is suddenly conditional, one option among many. A mom who, in middle-age, is still on a journey of self-absorption – sorry, self-discovery – and who could at any moment become a radically different, and altogether more fashionable, kind of entity. Quite what a six-year-old is supposed to do with such information, beyond feeling confused or insecure, is unclear.

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When Intellectuals Gather

March 13, 2023 88 Comments

To ruminate deeply on the issues of the day:

A crowd of jeering Stanford Law School students shouted down, yelled profanities and sexual mockery (“you can’t find the clit”) at Fifth Circuit Judge Stuart Kyle Duncan.

Stanford Law School Associate Dean for Diversity, Equity, And Inclusion Tirien Steinbach then intervened – not to admonish the students, but to spend several minutes berating the Judge for having the audacity to appear at Stanford Law School, which was traumatic to the students given his conservative judicial decisions.

Among the Judge’s supposedly harmful and traumatising views are his belief that dysmorphic men and autogynephile perverts should not venture into ladies’ toilets and changing rooms, and a refusal to use the preferred pronouns of a transgender sex offender, an enthusiast of pornography featuring children.

Other screamed objections to this “cis-het white man” included the outrage of his being brought “into the classroom building where our students have to go every day to be able to get this degree and participate in this community.” Apparently, mere proximity – even sought-out proximity – to a person with whom they disagree causes students of law, would-be intellectuals, to “feel unsafe.” Demurral, it seems, results in “tearing the fabric of this community.” This, from students and staff who accused the Judge of “wanting an echo chamber.”

This all was performative. None of those protesting students were forced to go into the classroom holding the lecture, and they engaged in a ritual walkout after they had prevented the Judge from giving his prepared remarks.

Video of this performative, self-applauding wankery – by students and Ms Steinbach, a supposedly grown woman – can be found at the link above, with a longer version here.  Of the four university administrators present at the event – acting dean of student affairs Jeanne Merino, associate director of student affairs Holly Parish, student affairs coordinator Megan Brown, and Ms Steinbach – none saw fit to ask that the invited guest be allowed to actually speak.

Stanford, since you ask, is ranked the second most prestigious law school in the United States, with annual tuition a mere $66,000.

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Dodging Bullets

March 4, 2023 114 Comments

Via Mr Muldoon in the comments, a shocking revelation:

Resumes including ‘they/them’ pronouns are more likely to be overlooked, new report finds. 

Not so much overlooked, I think, as warning signs heeded.

As we’ve seen many times, pretending to be a they does rather send a message regarding neuroticism, pretentiousness, captiousness, and the likelihood of disruption. If job applicants in effect announce that they expect anyone nearby to indulge their tedious psychodrama and pretend along with them, this will not always be met with enthusiasm. Demanding that others lie – and ignore or contradict the evidence right in front of them, daily – is, in short, rude. An act of hostility.

Contrary to Ashton Jackson, the author of the article quoted above, and contrary to Ryan McGonagill, the author of the report cited in said article, it’s not a matter of “how much work there is to do around diversity, equity, inclusion and belonging in the workplace.” And I very much doubt it’s about pronoun-stipulators finding themselves disqualified for “being authentic.” It’s more a matter of whether employers would be wise to hire, and trust, people who signal their narcissism, their unrealism, and their inclination to manipulate others.

And employers would do well to remember that The Pronoun Game, so much in fashion, is very often an attempt to bully others, to exert power, by making them say things, publicly and repeatedly, that they don’t for a minute believe to be true.

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Elsewhere (315)

January 11, 2023 41 Comments

Richard Vedder on a ratio of note:

I recently read in the Wall Street Journal that Stanford University had more administrative staff and faculty than it did students. Specifically, there were 15,750 administrators, 2,288 faculty members, and 16,937 students. The paid help of 18,038 (administrators plus faculty) outnumbered the customers (students) by 1,101. […]
Patrick Dunkley, Vice Provost for Institutional Equity, Access and Community, has a “Director for Positive Sexuality” who “aims to transform the cultural conversation to more fundamentally level-up on both the challenges and possibilities of sexuality” — whatever “fundamentally level-up” means. This sounds like expensive gobbledygook to me. And why do universities even have “sexuality” administrators, especially in a school that has 46 history professors, none of whom teaches a basic survey course in Western Civilisation?

Ah, but once you’ve conjured into being an Elimination of Harmful Language Initiative, for instance, someone – most likely several someones – will have to run it, or at least sit around in a designated office while waiting to be paid.

Robert J Morris on race and medicine:

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Bearded Man Gets Big Mad

December 21, 2022 55 Comments

Further to this recent drama, more overseas toilet-dispute news:

I’m not a man! There’s nothing that prevents me from slapping you in the face!

It turns out that a summer dress doesn’t make you a lady.

A female student at the University of Brasilia, the one being harangued and threatened, was seemingly unaware that the university has organised its bathrooms by “gender identity, not sex,” and so lively scenes are to be expected. The gentleman in question, Tulio Henrique Carvalho dos Santos, has, we learn, a history of difficult behaviour. Including hair-trigger aggression and denouncing any interruption of his loud and lengthy pronouncements as “transphobia,” akin to “racism,” and therefore a basis for legal action.

The University of Brasilia has subsequently issued a statement declaring the campus a “tolerant and plural place that values the richness and potential of diversity and respect for differences.” Which would presumably explain all the shoving, screaming and threats of violence.

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