New Niche Indignation
Come, let us dip a toe in the world of transgender Reddit – specifically, rFTMOver30 – where the sexually dysmorphic hunt for slips-ups, pronoun blunders, and tiny acts of transgression. As you might imagine, things can get quite competitive.
First, a little background on the author of this particular woe:
The struggle involves a devilish innovation in the world of “transphobia”:
This inadvertent favouring of factual accuracy is, it turns out, only the appetiser. The main basis for umbrage is about to become clear.
And so,
There we go. New ground broken. Drinks all round.
After the gathering, when the guests had left, apologies were of course extracted from the author’s partner, along with confessions of wrongdoing, for daring to suggest that no harm was intended. Needless to say, and despite the lengthy confession and profuse apologies, and despite promises to “sit down” with Alison and correct her, the author of the piece is, we’re told, “having trouble moving on.”
You see, if friends come over for a pleasant evening and they don’t immediately consider you a potential mugger of women, or rapist of women, this is oppressive, “invalidating,” and “transphobic.” Such that it feels like “a punch in the gut.” It’s perhaps not the most obvious basis for invoking the unfairness of the world and one’s own endless suffering, but hey. In this competition, contrivance equals bonus points.
Quite what the author’s partner makes of this news – that in order to avoid being “transphobic,” she must consider her transgender lover a potential rapist – is, alas, not divulged.
Readers are invited to ponder the prospect of a dinner party at which, in order to be polite and suitably affirming, you’re obliged to insinuate that the host is rapist material. And to do it convincingly. Rather than, say, compliment the cooking or the décor.
Please update your files and lifestyles accordingly.
Via Eliza Mondegreen.
Update, via the comments:
Several commenters note the implied, rather unhappy, domestic dynamic, in which the role of the author’s partner is seemingly to be scolded and deferential, forever affirming, regardless of how bizarre the situation becomes. Such that, a failure by one’s friends to regard one’s own lover as a potential mugger and rapist results in said lover becoming “hurt and surprised” and “pretty upset,” and subsequently demanding apologies.
Regarding the author’s annoyance at not being considered a danger to women in darkened car parks – by her own houseguests – Steve E adds,
An irony being that, as a group, the sexually dysmorphic, and certainly dysmorphic men, are much more likely than the wider population to be sex offenders. So, our indignant author may have a basis for feeling excluded. Though perhaps not quite for the reasons she had in mind.
Commenter Cheeflo observes that trans activists complain of “being erased, misgendered, or otherwise triggered,” but are not discernibly concerned by “the insult and humiliation imposed on the rest of us when they demand we deny reality to assuage their feelings.”
And regarding such demands, Abby adds,
Indeed. And when you defer to the pretence, complications will likely ensue, along with quite a lot of dark farce. Best, I think, not to give away the store in the first place. To defer to the premise, if only to seem nice or polite, is to risk being fundamentally compromised, robbed of probity, and to be left in a very weak position, or no position at all, to resist further demands for distortion and unrealism – and demands that one participate in someone else’s psychodrama.
Which is asking rather more than can readily be agreed to.
Update 2:
“The paradox of the transphobe.”
So ladies, how about letting him into your intimate spaces?
When a political movement is based on unreality, and this unreality yelled and insisted on, you end up no longer knowing what a woman is, you insist “weather disasters are getting worse” when they actually are not, you print money as if nothing could go wrong, you pretend that letting dangerous criminals and the criminally insane out of jail is without problems…..and here we are.
Could hand reduction be the next big thing in gender-affirming surgery?
Aka a handjob?
[ Heads for the door ]
[ Three curare-tipped blowdarts whistle by Steve’s ear and embed in door frame. ]
This applies to more than cheese-rolling:
Speaking of cheese rolling, this year’s womens winner is a 19-year-old Canuck who won despite being knocked out during the competition.
Good lass 🧀
Next year she can really go for it.
Modus ponens: all girls are allowed in the girls’ locker room, Socrates is a girl, therefore Socrates is allowed into the girls’ locker room.
Modus tollens: all girls are allowed in the girls’ locker room, Socrates shouldn’t be allowed into the girls’ locker room, therefore Socrates isn’t a girl.
One side exults, having extracted a concession, in applying modus ponens beyond limits of tradition and propriety. The other side is reluctant to reject the premise modus tollens (for fear of being mean to Socrates, who just wants to be a high school girl athlete) – we’re not saying Socrates isn’t a girl, but there are issues to do with logistics and competitive balance.
When you can get the other side to walk on eggshells about questioning your (very questionable) premises, when the other side is more comfortable discussing implementation details, then you’ve already won and it’s just a mopping up operation.
[ Slides gin and tonic along bar to Abby. ]
On the house.
As noted here more than once, when you defer to the lie, complications will ensue, along with quite a lot of farce. Best, I think, not to give away the store in the first place.
Abby is indeed correct. Another example of a faulty premise: black crime is due to racism. No evidence of how that linkage works. Consequence of accepting the premise: more sympathy for criminals than victims.
I lol’d. Or: sod off swampy part 327
https://twitter.com/ChuckCallesto/status/1662966385327087617
[T]he definition is “non-men who are attracted to and love other non-men.”
The word is EUNUCH
The soul-destroying trauma of grocery shopping: Another wordsmith “analyzes” the heart of darkness to be found in the modern supermarket. Amusingly, most of the things she complains about apply equally to grocery stores in the pre-supermarket era.
Many of today’s scribblers could use a few therapy sessions with Gunny Ermey.
I lol’d. Or: sod off swampy part 327
Part 328.
The Atlantic doth protest too much, methinks.
… the heart of darkness to be found in the modern supermarket…
Annie Ernaux is from Pontoise-Cergy, notable as the color-coordinated Whitopia setting for Eric Rohmer’s 1987 film Boyfriends and Girlfriends. As it was presented in the film, a new town constructed on rational lines that nobody should be more than 15 minutes away from crossing paths with somebody who’ll invite them to sailing, tennis, or a garden party.
The Left wants a consequence-free life combined with unreality. Sometimes the consequences fall on others, such as the retail theft and subway violence. but unreality has consequences even if you deny it. My neighbor (a divorcee) did not know about cars and didn’t care to learn. Lack of coolant burned up her engine. My roommate’s doctor dad visited and went downtown Seattle (45 yrs ago) at night and got mugged of his wallet and rolex. Paid no attention to danger but danger paid attention to him. I knew plenty of people back in my youth who frittered away their chance to get ahead and ended up in their 30s in a minimal job (white people, by the way). Millions of students attend college with no plan and get a useless degree. A couple of neighbor girls got pregnant and the parents raised the kid–consequences fell on the parents, which is not very nice. And of course, all of this is unfair.
This sort of hate crime, worse than 9/11, Pearl Harbor, and the Siege of Leningrad rolled into one must not stand!. Thankfully the LAPD are on the case!.
Oh for pity’s sake, now they are just trolling.
This is Parker, who is just perfect as a female Viking warrior.
Perhaps in their sojourns to Constantinople they acquired a Mediterranean leman or two.
In other casting news…
Oh well, at least it wasn’t Lizzo.
What we’re seeing is a sly conflation and basically an assault on probity. To defer to the premise, if only to seem nice or polite, is to be fundamentally compromised, and, as you say, to be left in a very weak position, or no position at all, to resist further demands for distortion and unrealism – and demands that one participate in someone else’s psychodrama:
As outlined here, for instance.
The soul-destroying trauma of grocery shopping.
“In the hands of a less skilled writer, this might come across as vapid or performative. In Ernaux’s telling, the gesture feels reasonable and justified”
Phew.
On the subject of grocery shopping our overseas contributors might be unaware of the recent spate of UK news stories decrying the fact that certain supermarkets are now limiting the amounts of steak, coffee etc on their shelves in response to rapidly increasing food shoplifting.
A completely unrelated anecdote. I volunteer to cook breakfast at a shelter for those in varying degrees of homelessness. A young man who spoke very little English showed up with a suspiciously chilled pack of mince (that’s ground beef to you 🇺🇸s ) from Sainsburys, presumably the one 50 yard away, and laboriously explained that he couldn’t eat pork so would I cook it for him. I told him sorry but it was sausage, bacon and eggs only as we didn’t have the time for anything else. He chucked the unopened pack into the bin and left, presumably to pick up a sandwich.
Post updated.
Regarding the post update, somewhat related.
See also.
This. This is left’s most effective tool in relation to the right’s greatest vulnerability.
Somewhat related.
A serious question.
In this instance the unfortunate child, assuming there ever was a pregnancy, was terminated (and that’s apparently the best thing she/he/it ever did).
However in a growing number of cases a foetus has developed and birth given by a woman who had been pumping un-natural hormones into her body throughout the 9 months.
Before long we will know if this has had a lasting and detrimental physical effect on the children (ignoring the mental and emotional harm resulting from being brought up by the likes of this creature).
Will any birth defects be swept under the carpet or will the whole trans movement along with their medical enablers finally be hit by the mother of all shitstorms?
Well, I’m generally a polite chap by nature and I don’t spend my time walking about at parties trying to aggravate people. As I’m sure I’ve mentioned before, I’ve had several exchanges with people who considered themselves trans, or “non-binary,” or gender non-conforming, or whatever, and no-one got upset. And in real life, there is, at least ideally, scope for tact.
But my preference for civility is conditional. And, like many people, I don’t appreciate being pressured to lie, or to hallucinate on demand. Or to become absurd.
“Roxy has a lot of spunk…”, probably in more ways than one.
More on this clown – bottom line, a woman called Sall Grover made a socialist media thing called Giggle just for women, not faux, ersatz, Potemkin, or LARPers, so the chap who calls himself Roxy Tickle of course is making a federal case* out of having been told to bugger off.
*(Aussie court: Tickle v. Giggle, you can’t make this stuff up)
John: you are correct. Pumping a woman full of T and suppressing female hormones can only have bad effects on a fetus. Pregnancy is a delicate thing prone to miscarriage. But just like the covid vaccine side effects, it is a question we are not allowed to ask and thus no one is compiling any data.
Roxy Tickle.
And her sister Tess.
Pumping a woman full of T and suppressing female hormones can only have bad effects on a fetus.
Likewise this bullshit notion that keeps being pushed, because “science”.
Lets ignore for a moment “not just a uterus makes a woman a woman so I want one to be a woman” line of thought, and I use the term loosely.
The utter ignorance and/or denial of basic anatomy and physiology of these idiots never ceases to amaze me. Yes, you can transplant, say a kidney, from a man to a woman or vice versa, because the plumbing is already there.
However, there is neither vascular supply nor innervation, nor support structures to just stick a uterus into a man, so lots of rewiring required and shaking of chicken bones to hope it works. There are not functioning ovaries so embryo implant. No vagina, cervix, or suitable pelvic outlet, so C-section would be required, even if the fetus was viable after a nine month bath of anti-rejection meds.
It is infuriating, however, I have no doubt that some Mengeloid is going to try it.
I remember when the Thalidomide scandal was invoked to demand rigorous testing and transparency before any drug could be approved.
And her sister Tess.
His sister…and on that note, ♫♪ “…Don’t fly with me Argentina…”♫♪
Thankfully the LAPD are on the case!.
From the LA Times…
As vandals go, very neat and tidy, and undoubtedly they followed regulations about putting the fire out properly. Did the teacher also find a three-legged counterclockwise swastika scrawled on the wall with the ashes?
It’s Armenians who predominate in this parent protest, and in other schools, it’s Muslims who are tearing down the rainbow flags. We’re supposed to imagine not that they’re simply importing their child-rearing intuitions from the old country but that they’ve been led astray by the divisive rhetoric of Steven Crowder.
It seems to me there are some things that have made the relations between the sexes worse. An obvious one is feminism which constantly beats the drum that men are pigs. A second is media which makes everyone have unrealistic expectations. Men can see beautiful women naked daily and compare their rather average girlfriend to that. Women can see couples going on trips to Fiji and people living in mansions and compare the boy to that (a boy who at 20 won’t have $ for a vacation for some years). Back when people only could compare to their own neighborhood, the pressure was much less. Thus lots of dissatisfaction. In addition, the pill suppresses women’s sex drive and alters who they choose. For men, being obese lowers T. Welfare means that women may not be thinking about marriage at all. All around it is a shit-show.
In unrelated sciency news, “You wouldn’t have run over that guy if you bothered to clean your windshield.”
“Officer, I was just doing my part to save the planet.”
“The paradox of the transphobe.”
So ladies, how about letting him into your intimate spaces?
On May 22, a full-time teacher at the school who is transgender discovered a Pride flag that had been displayed in a flower pot was burned and the pot had been broken.
I call Smolletting.
Not seeing a paradox. Just a dangerous lunatic.
Well, quite.
Remember when Village Idiots stayed local?
a Pride flag that had been displayed in a flower pot was burned
Bill and Ben. Still based.
“Roxy has a lot of spunk…”, probably in more ways than one.
From the comments at the link:
Hmmm, radical feminist, why do women need access to a space that is exclusively for men. As someone has pointed out before here, feminism needs to take a lot of the blame for why we’re where we are. Like a true lefty they never expect things to be turned on themselves.
Titania speaks.
I see Mark Steyn gave this post a mention on his show last night. Friend of the stars, eh, David?
Er. I don’t suppose this means you can get Eva Vlaardingerbroek’s phone number by any chance? Asking for a friend.
Thankfully the LAPD are on the case!
Why is burning that stupid flag a hate crime but burning an American flag is free speech? Probably for the same reason that dunking a crucifix in a glass of urine is art but dropping a koran on the ground is a hate crime. You can tear up a bible and burn your country’s flag (if it’s a wypipo country) but woe unto the one who disrespects islam or the rainbow woke religion.
This whole business of ‘trans’ people demanding full access to the ‘spaces’ of others while maintaining their own, private, enclaves gives the game away. The answer might be for women to demand the same access to ‘trans’ ‘spaces’.
Didn’t know. Heh. Top of the show, even.
Step aside, peasants. My limousine awaits.
So . . . who’s to look after the place while you’re off hobnobbing?
[ In uncanny silence, the henchlesbians – Melody, Harmony, Chastity, and Grace – descend from above on a Mission: Impossible-style rig. Nunchucks at the ready. ]
Won’t they get in the way of the tap handles?
Feels like a reverse of Phil Hart man’s cave man skit. Explaining things in overly simplified ways to win over the idiots on the jury. This person (also an idiot) is won over because some pretty phrasing was used to sell a bad idea.
Did Destiny, Symphony and Rhapsody fail the audition?
https://youtu.be/Hi07tZEYZd0
SIG.
Does Harmony have that fifty bucks she still owes me? Yeah…I didn’t think so.
I see that Wikipedia calls her “right wing”, not conservative, reminding us that the left brands everyone to their right as extreme.
Did Destiny, Symphony and Rhapsody fail the audition?
[True story.] I was replacing the baseboards and door casings in the house. We have a local supplier here in London, Ontario called North Pole Trim & Supplies that I ordered from. A few days after placing my order, I got a phone call. The young woman identified herself as Destiny from North Pole, she had a date and time for my delivery. When I got off the phone my wife asked who I was talking to. I told her Destiny was calling from the North Pole to inform me my time had come. [True story.]
Its easy to fool these intellectuals; they are the most credulous and stupid people around.
Midwits.
Ambitious mediocrities.
Paul Fussell once suggested there were two conditions precedent to wearing a Greek Fisherman’s cap: the first, that you be Greek, and the second, that you be a fisherman. In that spirit, can I propose an appelation controlee for lesbians…you have to come from Lesbos?
In that spirit, can I propose an appelation controlee for lesbians…you have to come from Lesbos?
Nyet, what of the henchlesbians, and seeing as how about half the population of the island is men, it legitimizes the concept of male lesbian.
Does Harmony have that fifty bucks she still owes me?
It was a lap dance, no refunds, no credit note.
“Introducing Logan Brown, GLAMOUR’s June Pride cover star…” whose “manlihood” is all too apparent.
Farnsworth,
Good point, one I hadn’t thought through. And abject apologies to Grace, Melody, Harmony, and Chastisement, er, sorry, Chastity.
The current inhabitants of the island are Not Amused.
Sonny Wayz@May 31, 2023 1:00 pm:
Per ccscientist et al, I’ve wondered why these beings with clear insight into both sexes/genders/whatever aren’t in demand as marriage counselors.
Recall the myth of Tiresias. He was turned into a woman (and then changed back after seven years). A dispute arose among the Olympian gods as to which sex has the better deal in intercourse. Zeus and the men argued that males did all the work while females just laid back and enjoyed it. Hera and the other ladies vehemently disagreed. The Olympians then called on Tiresias to give judgement, as he was the only person to have experienced both sides.
(He ruled in favor of the men, whereupon Hera struck him blind. Zeus could not undo that, but he compensated Tiresias with the gift of prophecy.)
Correction: There are many variant myths about Tiresias and how he became blind. But in the ones I have read which recount the above argument between Zeus and Hera, nothing is said about “males did all the work” and Tiresias is simply asked who gets more pleasure from sex, men or women, to which he answered women. And that was what angered Hera.