Where Pretending Gets You
Via TomJ in the comments:
The head of one of Scotland’s biggest rape crisis centres has suggested “bigoted” rape survivors should be re-educated about transgender rights as part of recovering from their trauma. Mridul Wadhwa, a transgender woman, said people would not truly recover unless they addressed their “unacceptable beliefs” because “therapy is political.” She said: “We will work with you… but please expect to be challenged on your prejudices.” The comments imply rape survivors may be treated differently according to their political views.
So, a woman who has just been traumatically violated by a man pretending to be something that he isn’t, i.e., a lover, and been forced to submit to his fantasies, is now to face another man pretending to be something that he isn’t. And will be forced to submit to his fantasies.
Update:
Wadhwa, a self-styled “strategic thinker,” insists that “therapy is political” – which apparently means that a woman who’s been raped by a man and then seeks help from other women will be told, on the orders of a man, that she “can’t really… recover from trauma” until she “reframes” that experience to incorporate the most modish and deranging iteration of transgender ideology. Failure to do so is “unacceptable” and will of course be “challenged.” Because priorities.
The centre is currently advertising for a chief operating officer, who must also be a woman, and says applications from trans women would be “especially welcome.”
Must be a woman – or even better, not.
As STG says in the comments,
Imagine going to your first counselling session after being raped and realising that the counsellor considers their problems more important than yours. And then realising that, in addition, the therapist wants emotional support from you, and that if you don’t give it, you are considered a bad person. And this is policy.
Indeed. Readers are invited to imagine, too, the precise level of self-preoccupation required in the scenario above. To insert one’s own psychodrama into that situation, of all situations. It’s practically sociopathic. Yet here we are.
Update 2:
And because things aren’t sufficiently bizarre, from elsewhere in the article:
Wadhwa also attempted to address concerns about natal males being in rape crisis centres by arguing “men are already in these spaces” because they were involved in decisions about its funding and “planning permission.”
Yes, you read that correctly. Planning permission. 
The head of one of Scotland’s biggest rape crisis centres… Mridul Wadhwa, a transgender woman,
They chose poorly.
Or, Dear Transgender Person, It’s Not Always About You And What You Want.
I mean, dear God, imagine the level of self-preoccupation. To insert one’s own psychodrama into that situation, of all situations.
It’s practically sociopathic.
Or, Dear Transgender Person, It’s Not Always About You And What You Want.
Sadly, it seems that it always is
Or, Dear Transgender Person, It’s Not Always About You And What You Want.
So. Much. That.
Well, the words “get over yourself” seem somewhat apposite.
Imagine a world where rape crisis centres are run by mysogynists…wait, what?
Imagine going to your first counselling session after being raped and realising that the counsellor considers their problems more important than yours. And then realising that, in addition, the therapist wants emotional support from you, and that if you don’t give it, you are considered a bad person. And this is policy.
Another name for my Brusters List.
Brusters is a chain of ice cream shops that makes really wonderful stuff. Alas, my A1C levels prohibit me from partaking in it regularly so I have created my Brusters List, i.e., a list of people for whom, should I hear they’ve achieved room temperature and gone on to join the Choir Invisible, I will indulge in a large sundae.
I am hard pressed to see how the world benefits from Mridul Wadhwa being a part of it.
“Despite lacking a gender recognition certificate . . .”
Rules for thee but not for “she.” Because trans people are special unicorns. Just out of curiosity, with all these slavish privilege directed at them, has the suicide rate dropped among trans youth at all?
What Wadhwa says:
“Sexual violence happens to bigoted people as well. It is not a discerning crime. But these spaces are also for you.”
What I’m hearing:
Yes, even you – you with your now permanently wonky jawline, fresh orbital fracture, and your pin-cushion textured arms and toes – even you are welcome, here.
Because that’s how big I am.
I’m practically Christ-like in my compassion.
No, that’s OK. You can thank me later.
Modern, streamlined, bureaucratised, compassion, where real victims are treated vilely & fake victims are cossetted.
“Enough already with your rape. Let’s talk about your views on trans women.”
Therapy is political? Since when?
Amazing how one can make up utter bullsh!t like that and get away with it. We live in twisted times.
Transgender bloke pretending to be a woman appointed to………FFS……Just FFS!!!!!
’ I mean, dear God, imagine the level of self-preoccupation.’
Transgender activists need to up their game. Modern Tories are fast catching up:
http://twitter.com/GBNEWS/status/1426854071995150338
If your sense of self is so fragile that you need constant validation from everyone around you that you are — yes, yes, you really really are — what you think you are, you shouldn’t be in the presence of people who are hurt and suffering.
Imagine going to your first counselling session after being raped and realising that the counsellor considers their problems more important than yours.
Vanity is a powerful drug.
one of Scotland’s biggest rape crisis centres
“One of”? So there’s what, a chain of such places?
And “Mridul Wadhwa” just screams “Scottish” to me. Of course, I’m not Scottish, so whadda I know?
The whole thing smells of “taxpayer funded grift”…
The head of one of Scotland’s biggest rape crisis centres has suggested “bigoted” rape survivors should be re-educated about transgender rights…
Nearly all the news out of Scotland in recent years seems to indicate an enthusiastic embrace of some sort of fascism.
Of course, no matter what insane things they do, they will never win Wimbledon.
As always, the revolution eats its’ own.
I know two women who’ve been raped. I’m not talking about women who give consent, have sex, regret it the next morning, and decide retroactively that they were raped. I mean women who have had a knife to their throat and been attacked by violent psychopaths.
Back in the 1970s and 1980s, it was said that women were raped twice. Once by the attacker, and again by the court system, forcing them to relive it.
Their solution appears to be to trivialize actual victims of violence in order to not offend fragile narcissists. When everything is rape, then nothing is rape, and actual victims are ignored in order to maintain a narrative.
Many years ago, there was a case in Canada when a convicted rapist got a job at a rape crisis hotline. And as always, our betters in government were tut-tutting the ignorant public about the possibly that maybe women who’d been assaulted weren’t going to be interested in talking to another rapist about their assault. He’d served his time, paid his debt, these women would just have to deal with it, etc. To the surprise of no one but everyone in the government, calls to the rape crisis hotline dropped to near zero. Unexpectedly.
Mridul Wadhwa is going to practise its (that’s the closest I can come to a non-gendered pronoun in this case) special brand of crazy wherever it is. What’s really sickening are the people who put it in charge of a rape crisis centre in the first place.
is now to face another man pretending to be something that he isn’t. And will be forced to submit to his fantasies.
No kidding.
Of course, no matter what insane things they do, they will never win Wimbledon.
Who? The Scottish? The trans? The trans-scottish? Did the joke go over my head?
Andy Murray has won it twice.
Great picture though.
The centre is currently advertising for a chief operating officer, who must also be a woman, and says applications from trans women would be “especially welcome”.
🤡
Did the joke go over my head?
Not really. It’s from a Monty Python sketch that ends, IIRR, with Angus playing a blancmange at Wimbledon.
I saw it on PBS when I was 15, one of the first Python episodes, and it was a deeply weird experience on so many levels, and why I love Britain.
More dark hilarity:
Yes, you read that correctly. Planning permission.
But this is the kind of narcissistic bedlamite who would tell a woman who’d recently been raped that she “can’t really… recover from trauma” unless she “reframes” that experience to incorporate the modish fantasy that trans women are women. Lest she be denounced as a bigot.
Because “therapy is political.”
It’s from a Monty Python sketch that ends, IIRR, with Angus playing a blancmange at Wimbledon.
Yes. Angus playing tennis against himself. Very funny. It’s from this episode in which space aliens which look like giant blancmanges turn everyone into Scotsmen (who cannot play tennis) so that the aliens can win Wimbledon.
Sorry about thoughtlessly being too obscure. I should have included a link for the sake of the many people who are not familiar with Monty Python. I only included the image because it was a recurring trope in that episode of people turning into Scotsmen and immediately marching off with their fists raised in a gesture reminiscent of European fascists and American black racial fascists.
Sorry about thoughtlessly being too obscure.
Thanks for the explanation. I thought I had seen every episode of Python. Must have missed that one. Although, it was usually on very late at night and I probably slept through more than a few. Also, this isn’t a particularly sports oriented blog. So you never know.
I wonder why jobs in social work seem so frequently filled by crazy people. Does no one else apply? Or is it that “Head X of do-good agency Y says crazy thing Z” is a good way to fill space on slow news days?
I wonder why jobs in social work seem so frequently filled by crazy people. Does no one else apply?
Possibly useful analogy: I understand that the field of psychology tends to attract people who have psychological problems.
Furthermore, the left now controls the field of social work: it can be very difficult to get a degree, much less get hired, if you are a conservative.
Related.
Also, this isn’t a particularly sports oriented blog.
Er, actually, we’ve covered lady wrestlers, the World Cup, and, er – give me a minute – ballooning.
Er, actually…
A pox upon me for a clumsy lout!
and, er – give me a minute – ballooning.
I prefer The Golden Age of Ballooning.
Well, the rape victims were getting more attention, more sympathy, and were therefore becoming more important than the trannies. This just re-affirms the correct pecking order.
What else were they to do?
Thanks, pst314. But why no people in these jobs who aren’t leftist OR conservative, who just want to do the job and go home each day? Are they also being screened out?
But why no people in these jobs who aren’t leftist OR conservative, who just want to do the job and go home each day? Are they also being screened out?
I suspect that is the case.
But why no people in these jobs who aren’t leftist OR conservative, who just want to do the job and go home each day? Are they also being screened out?
The interview process, if the covering letter with the CV doesn’t, will reveal if the job applicant suffers from wrongthink.
Then original employees will leave, until everyone employed has got with the program. That’s why culture at companies is so important. It’s set from the top. Too late for victims of Rape in Scotland. Rape victims in Scotland aren’t, it seems, as important as self certifying trans. What’s the betting than the COO, when appointed, will be trans? at trivial tenths of a percent of the population, they end up running a Rape Crisis Centre. Men raped them, so why not let men screw them again in therapy? Oh, and in getting the best paying jobs in an organisation for women? Sorry about the language.
Then original employees will leave, until everyone employed has got with the program.
And it is easy to make employees’ lives unpleasant without doing anything legally actionable. This was discussed by Glenn Loury, John McWhorter, and Jason Riley in a recent podcast about conservative economist Thomas Sowell. (It is especially easy for lefties to do this, because their ideology tells them that doing evil is virtuous.)
Pst314: Yes. Angus playing tennis against himself. Very funny.
Well this column sure fell into anti-Angus bigotry fast. Pity the poor Angus’s, we are the most downtrodden of the white male population.
Well, Angus, is your last name Podgorny?
Pity the poor Angus’s, we are the most downtrodden of the white male population.
Not all, some people make a fuss over them.
Well this column sure fell into anti-Angus bigotry fast. Pity the poor Angus’s, we are the most downtrodden of the white male population.
Well, the recent rise of fascism in Scotland is something that concerns me, and I do idly wonder how strongly it is connected to the “If it ain’t Scottish it’s crap!” chauvinism I have encountered–as opposed to the fascistic trends we see in various other countries. Sad, because at one time if you said “Scotland” my first thought would be the Scottish Enlightenment.
It’s practically sociopathic.
Sexual dysmorphia is a coping mechanism for Complex PTSD, which is an umbrella term for the Cluster B personality disorders, one of which is sociopathy.
The transgendered are definitionally, dangerously mentally ill and while they deserve sympathy and therapy for their trauma under no circumstances should they be allowed in any position of trust or responsibility.
Therapy is political? Since when?
I’m guessing you’ve never been to couples therapy. The Man Is Always Wrong has been a staple of feminist social work since the 1990s.
I wonder why jobs in social work seem so frequently filled by crazy people. Does no one else apply?
Social work doesn’t pay very well, requires excess schooling and credentials to get into, and is funded almost entirely and capriciously by government. It attracts people for whom doing social work is more important than financial stability. This class of people tends to contain rather a lot of people avoiding dealing with their own problems by “helping” others.
Well, the rape victims were getting more attention, more sympathy, and were therefore becoming more important than the trannies.
That.
What’s the betting than the COO, when appointed, will be trans? at trivial tenths of a percent of the population, they end up running a Rape Crisis Centre. Men raped them, so why not let men screw them again in therapy? Oh, and in getting the best paying jobs in an organisation for women?
Celebrate Imperial Eunichs, or else.
This class of people tends to contain rather a lot of people avoiding dealing with their own problems by “helping” others.
PATOP: People Avoiding Their Own Problems.
any position of trust or responsibility.
For those who missed it, I’ll just leave this here.
Well, the rape victims were getting more attention, more sympathy, and were therefore becoming more important than the trannies.
Betcha many trannies actually tell each other that they are “raped” by the failure of random individuals to participate in their delusions.
I’m guessing you’ve never been to couples therapy. The Man Is Always Wrong has been a staple of feminist social work since the 1990s.
One of the scandals of these “helping professions” is that men who are abused by their wives get very short shrift.
men who are abused by their wives get very short shrift
The domestic violence industry will crush anyone who contradicts the narrative. A lot of iron rice bowls – as well as no small number of people’s entire identities and sense of purpose – would be threatened by any change from the status quo of All Men Are Evil.
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[…]no small number of people’s entire identities and sense of purpose […] would be threatened by any change from the status quo of All Men Are Evil.
This is the exact same phenomenon in the American K-12 education-industry complex. An entire machine of political graft, cultural influence, massive budgets, and charged with perhaps the most important societal task (ostensibly educating the young in hard facts and cultural tradition), Big Ed is wholly led and administered by insanely dogmatic
peoplewomen who cannot admit that their policies have been an objective failure – on their own terms! – for generations. Oh sure, there’s constant upheaval and “change” from on high (done haphazardly and causing even more harm than even steady incompetence), but it all springs from the same ideology, one which cannot be questioned lest the entire industry admit it’s been royally fucking things up.See also: Democrat-run, minority-majority cities.
Is it just me, or is everyone a little too familiar with current year authoritarianism? Daniel mentions he* cannot travel or leave his country and we (including myself) went, “Canada, eh?”
*assuming you’ve avoided the jackboot jab
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Argh. Try these:
Shot.
Chaser.
Big Ed is wholly led and administered by insanely dogmatic […] women who cannot admit that their policies have been an objective failure – on their own terms! – for generations.
I think I’ve mentioned this here before, but it bears repeating: I once knew an elementary school teacher who had rocketed up the ranks of her profession, reaching assistant principal and the Sunshine List. Much of that was because the district was desperate to promote women to senior admin positions, but she let me in on her secret: she had a quite a corpus of academic papers she’d presented at conferences to bolster her career, and she generated it by looking up whatever pedogogical fad had been in vogue ten years prior, rewriting the major paper(s) on the topic, and submitting it as new. When I pointed out that 1) this implied that pedagogy was simply cycling between the same set of paradigms over and over and that 2) that implied that either none of them was any better than another, or else no one knew which was better than any other, making the whole field a sham, she stopped talking to me.
Said teacher also bragged about the fact that she’d successfully evaded the board’s IT security so she could play World of Warcraft all day in her office, and that there were many scantily clad WoW cosplay photos of her in the wild.
Daniel mentions he* cannot travel or leave his country
Oh, of course Canada would never, ever prevent its own citizens from leaving the country. Why, we’re not East Germany! You just can’t get on a plane or a train without injecting yourself with untested viral gene therapy twice, and you can’t cross into the US on land without it either. But if you can drive to a major port city and stow away on an outbound freighter your freedoms are completely intact.
“Let’s see yer papers, b’y.”
If you can evade your border control, you should have smooth sailing. I’m pretty sure all of our guys are in Texas, busily stacking new arrivals with forklifts and front-end loaders.
Texas is a disgusting and terrible place where essentially no modern conveniences are available. The weather is atrocious, the people unwelcoming, and there’s basically no jobs. Traffic is awful and people are shot in the streets regularly over minor spats.
Please spread the word.
Apropos of nothing…Ever notice that when the evil, fascist, dirty rotten, murderous, evil capitalist, evil racist Americans roll into a country, you never see hundreds/thousands of refugees desperately clinging to the airplanes and helicopters of the departing regime? Never see legions of people crowding dusty back roads towing carts of their few belongings and frail relatives behind them. Navys of boat people do not take to the seas to escape from the evil fascist dirty roteten evil racist fascist evil Americans. Funny that. Just not funny ha-ha. Also funny no one ever mentions this.
Mme. Lolcat, PST, Daniel:
I wonder why jobs in social work seem so frequently filled by crazy people. Does no one else apply?
Possibly useful analogy: I understand that the field of psychology tends to attract people who have psychological problems….Furthermore, the left now controls the field of social work: it can be very difficult to get a degree, much less get hired, if you are a conservative.
Social work doesn’t pay very well, requires excess schooling and credentials to get into, and is funded almost entirely and capriciously by government. It attracts people for whom doing social work is more important than financial stability. This class of people tends to contain rather a lot of people avoiding dealing with their own problems by “helping” others.
What occurs to me is that the weird assertions that bubble up from the social and behavioural sciences are a reaction to the incipient realization that there’s really no there, there, and coming up with a gnosis accessible only to the pros is their one means of staying relevant to human experience and continuing to sell tickets to the monkey-show. Some people shake their heads and laugh it off, but some – usually uncritical, usually unoriginal, often afflicted with “impostor syndrome”, desperate for the story-behind-the-story, and withal easy marks for mental domination – are inspired to take the whole business up as a vocation.
Psychoanalysis is an instrument which subtle people use in order to think superbly about inmost matters, which the crude use to know many things that cannot be known, and which everybody can use to move in on everybody else. (George P. Elliott, “The Enemies of Intimacy”, 1980)
Moving in on everybody else and the pretence of mind-reading are vital life skills in that world, a world that HR departments and the like are enveloping ordinary people with as fast as they can manage it. Once you can read another’s mind it’s a short and pleasant hop to dismissing any arguments he might make as motivated reasoning (Jack Lewis’s “Bulverism”). It is unnecessary to seek further for an explanation of Bulverism’s appeal to the crude and mediocre.*
*Shameless plagiarism from Christopher Lasch.
Apropos of nothing…
Nay. ‘Tis appropriate to mention. Watching clips of fellow humans falling to their death whilst trying to escape by hanging onto an American aircraft is just…
I haven’t felt this ill about the state of the world since 9/11. May God have mercy upon their souls.
*goes away quietly*
I have no pity for them.
Apropos…..
Afghanistan?
What a shame that Joe Biden isn’t alive to witness this debacle.
I’ll get me coat…
We lived in Texas (Fort Hood) in the early ‘60s. About all I remember is riding the mechanical horsie at the civilian grocery in Killeen, and my brother declaring war on the appropriately Texas-sized crickets that infested the basement. Every evening he’d go down there with a shoe and you’d hear whap-whap-whap.
And God, was it hot.
What, no scorpions? Our first house was in Killeen and while walking barefoot in said house and seeing a scorpion in the rug, I realized that I had a scorpion colored rug after I couldn’t find it after walking away to get a weapon to kill it.
Pity the poor Angus’s, we are the most downtrodden of the white male population.
Anguses. The plural of Angus is Anguses. Or Angi, if you insist on applying Latin grammar to an English sentence about people in Scotland. I don’t recommend it.
Mainly all I remember about Texas is that it stank of chillies. They do grow a lot of chillies there.
Funnily enough, Mexico stank of Mexicans. For much the same reason.
See? Texas is a hellscape which you would not wish on your worst enemies. Stay away. Stay far, far away.
Tell everyone you know lest they be tempted by lies and propaganda to the contrary.
@Sam
It’s too late, my family and I have already planned our move for early next year.
Texas is a hellscape which you would not wish on your worst enemies. Stay away. Stay far, far away.
Yeah, too late for that. Tried the same with Florida. At least y’all don’t have to counter your state’s tourism bureau…well not as much. And no, you cannot have any of our hurricane allocation. And get your own alligators.
And further more, you Brits and your obsession with our
baked beans has got to stop!
*ping*
*ping*
Re-verify range to target weekend. One ping only.
Richard, my brother was stung by a scorpion at school one day. It crawled up his back and no one, including he, noticed, then stung his neck. He says it hurt like crazy for an hour and then was okay. The school nurse put something on it but it didn’t help much. he just had to wait it out.
Can someone help me understand how the Taliban waged such an effective campaign despite their glaring lack of female, black, gay, and trans representation? I have it on good authority that all organizations benefit from such diversity.
Anguses, Latin is quite inappropriate. The correct plural is of course the Greek, Angapodes. This follows the same rule as applied to Octopus (a word derived from Greek), for which the correct plural is Octapodes, as all should know.
Romani ite domum!
Sam: Shhhhh!
The Taliban must completely baffle our rulers. Not only are they uninterested in diversity per se, they take their religion seriously.
It’s practically sociopathic.
Yes, practically.
*ping*
Yes, practically.
Bless you, sirs. Should your enemies find themselves with a companion in the shower, may it have eight legs.
Yes, practically.
If someone thinks that an ideal opportunity to propagate their own hardline trans ideology is when dealing with a woman who’s very recently been raped and in serious distress, and if that someone thinks an embrace of said transgender ideology is mandatory in those circumstances, and that any demurral is “unacceptable” and must be “challenged,” then this suggests a mind unmoored from reality. Indeed, it suggests narcissism and spite.
In entirely unrelated news, Cluster B personality disorders are remarkably common among transgender individuals, with studies suggesting rates of between 40% and 80%.
WTP
https://youtu.be/wW25INh9zhQ
Despite my nations fondness for baked beans there is little doubt that Ann Margret is best enjoyed without being immersed in them.
practically sociopathic
Band name.
Therapy is political? Since when?
Since we stopped giving would-be commissars the boot.
Anguses. The plural of Angus is Anguses
Anguis.
What’s Gaelic for pedantic, again?
Texas is a hellscape
I came here to kill scorpions and chew bubblegum. And I’m all out of bubblegum.
this suggests a mind unmoored from reality
The devil you say.
there is little doubt that Ann Margret is best enjoyed without being immersed in them.
True. Hadn’t watched that video in some time now. Thanks. Though sadly, I suspect about 2/3 of the guys dancing with her there are gay. OK, maybe not sadly for them. But YKWIM.