The Bedlamite Shag
My friend Bear identifies as someone with Dissociative Identity Disorder (often erroneously referred to as multiple personality disorder) which is integral to how and why they practice polyamory. They say, “I don’t have any illusion one person could meet all my personalities’ needs. We are very different. Different tastes, different hobbies, different things which make us happy.”
As I’ve said before, readers may wish to ponder why a publication aimed at fierce, empowered feminists – would-be remakers of the world – should presume that much of its readership has quite serious mental health issues.
Update:
Perhaps unsurprisingly, Tim has some thoughts.
My friend Bear
Let me stop you right there.
As I think we’ve established over the years, Everyday Feminism is not so much a journal for fiercely empowered ladies, but a pit of self-absorption for unhinged women who eat tissues.
Everyday Feminism’s former managing editor, Melissa Fabello.
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A clue, perhaps.
Here’s Annah Anti-Palindrome, an Everyday Feminism contributor who imagined that The Great Patriarchal Hegemon™ – the one that lives in her mind – would be both threatened and enraged by a combination of poor hygiene and pretentious hair.
And here’s Celia Edell, a contributor who frets about whether women can be oppressed by bacon sandwiches, and who struggles with numbers, facts and expectations of competence.
We could do this all day. But I think it’s fair to say that these ladies, with their elaborate, rather convoluted concerns, may not be entirely representative of womanhood.
How to date mentally ill women.
https://everydayfeminism.com/2018/08/dating-mentally-ill-women/
How to date mentally ill women.
And note that these aren’t occasional topics; they’re a staple and amount to maybe 30% of the publication’s content.
One for me, indeed:
http://www.desertsun.co.uk/blog/8180/
One for me, indeed
I laughed out loud at the line, “Remember, polyamorists are perfectly normal.” Also, “A bloke can’t bring his wife along on a date. Imagine.”
I denounce myself.
How to date mentally ill women.
Don’t?
Although if Dad had followed that advice there wouldn’t be a me.
How to date mentally ill women.
To slightly mis-quote Benny Hill:
Q: ” What steps did you take when you discovered the woman you were dating was mentally ill?”
A: ” Bloody long ones.”
My friend Bear identifies as someone with Dissociative Identity Disorder (often erroneously referred to as multiple personality disorder) which is integral to how and why they practice polyamory.
“No single man could satisfy all her conflicting personalities” is perhaps not the most obvious way to signal someone’s desirability. Unless, of course, the nation’s menfolk are eagerly searching out their very own clinically unstable woman who insists on the pronoun they and whose psyche is so fragmented that at any given time she could turn up for a date believing herself to be someone else entirely.
I have seen it written that 20 percent of American women are on psychiatric drugs at any given time. Given that it might be safe to say that over half of American women have been on psychiatric drugs. Think about that, doctors have decided that over half of American women are crazy. Unfortunately, the women at everyday feminism are not the outliers, they are pretty much the norm of western women.
And here’s Celia Edell…
…and here is the authoress of today’s nonsense. My apologies in advance, and no she isn’t, unless she is a member of the Moro Islamic Liberation Front.
You will be surprised to note that that unfortunate photo came from an article about fat positivity
But I digress.
My friend Bear identifies as someone with Dissociative Identity Disorder…
Identifies as, meaning not really diagnosed, but wants to be or pretending to be ? Let me pull out my DSM V – ah, yes, Factitious Disorder, but as that generally refers to imagined physical disorders, there is something quite meta about an imagined psychiatric disorder.
Oh, who am I kidding, just another histrionic PD.
This is just the beginning of the conversations we need to have and resources we need to develop to make polyamory as much of a possibility for us as it is for non-disabled people.
Who’s “we,” Kemosabe? When did satisfying your particular kink(s) become the responsibility of the rest of us? From whence comes this right to require the rest of us to participate in your delusions?
“who struggles with … expectations of competence”
Yeah, there’s yer problem…
to make polyamory as much of a possibility for us as it is for non-disabled people.
The author of the article, Katie Tastrom, inform us that mental health problems “can… enhance polyamory in many unique ways.” Well, perhaps. But I’m not convinced that people with serious mental health issues should seek out polyamorous relationships, which by definition entail a much higher risk of feelings of anxiety, jealousy and abandonment. It doesn’t strike me as ideal for someone whose mental health is already a bit touch-and-go.
mental health issues
The linked item uses the term “neurotypical” instead of “sane” and “normal”. Because crazy people are not crazy, they are merely a minority—a minority cruelly oppressed by the neurotypical majority.
Just take up golf.
Everyday Feminism is not so much a journal for fiercely empowered ladies, but a pit of self-absorption for unhinged women who eat tissues.
I laughed (loudly) on the train. Now people are looking. 😀
Now people are looking.
No refunds. Credit note only.
whose psyche is so fragmented that at any given time she could turn up for a date believing herself to be someone else entirely.
How do you suppose they coordinate day to day activities? Perhaps a shared calendar? What if one of them is running late or stuck in traffic and its another one’s turn to start dinner?
How do you suppose they coordinate day to day activities? Perhaps a shared calendar?
– Or in a friend’s words, “I’m trying to find myself. If I show-up here before I return, would you please hold me here until I get back?”
Now people are looking.
I mean, it’s the first place to look if you want articles by “neuro-divergent” authors on the responsibility of witches to engage in radical politics, or on “resisting” Donald Trump by burning herbs, charging your crystals and pushing up against trees.
As disabled people, we are twice as likely to have been victims of sexual trauma.
I think she gets this part backwards.
I have found that people (women at least) with a history of sexual abuse very frequently substitute sex in place of emotional connection.
Here’s Annah Anti-Palindrome, an Everyday Feminism contributor who imagined that The Great Patriarchal Hegemon™ – the one that lives in her mind – would be both threatened and enraged by a combination of poor hygiene and pretentious hair.
Have just shown that one to my wife. She’s cackling.
She’s cackling.
Clearly, you chose well. I suspect that she may now, from time to time, remind you of your good fortune.
She does already. 🙂
She does already. 🙂
I find it’s the basis of any good partnership. Periodically reminding one’s other half that things could be much, much worse.
Re: Annah
I’m curious why so many “feminists” feel the need to wear a ring through their nose.
I’m curious why so many “feminists” feel the need to wear a ring through their nose.
I suspect that, like Ms Fabello, she’s making sure the rest of us know how terribly non-conformist she is.
I’m curious why so many “feminists” feel the need to wear a ring through their nose.
I was, and probably am still, convinced that it is to give somewhere for the fervently, if secretly, longed for alpha-male patriarchal oppressor to attach the (gold, of course, because that is the minimum they deserve!) leash?
Scold-o-mat, yes, I know. You probably need to replace the rubble bag.
I’m curious why anybody feels the need to wear a ring through their nose. Well, not curious enough to ask one of them…so maybe I’m not all that curious at all. I really wasn’t made for this world. I think that’s the real problem.
Rings and studs through the side of the nose are merely unhygienic.
But through the middle like that just make me want to go “oink”. My wife has trained me out of actually doing it out loud, fortunately.
Why, unless Surreptitious Evil is correct, would you choose a style strongly associated with livestock?
Why, unless Surreptitious Evil is correct, would you choose a style strongly associated with livestock?
Because he is correct. It’s just more “I hate you Daaaaad/Pay attention to meeee”. Just imagine a rebellious teenager trying to shock their parents by doing whatever they think will offend them and you’ve got it right.
In this case, it’s “I’m going to publicly sport jewelry associated with kinky sex because they’ve been telling me since puberty that sex is something to be cherished between a man and wife in private”.
I wonder who is dating these grotty mentalists. I’d rather wank into a sock for 50 years and die alone than be saddled with any of them.
They reject society because they are failures in it. And it was probably sour, anyway.
As for who’s dating them, it’s each other, of course; they reject Darwin, too.
I rather doubt those people have ever been around livestock and are thusly ignorant of the connection.
“I’d rather wank into a sock for 50 years and die alone ”
Stop appropriating my culture!
Is there any opportunities for commercial growth for the publishers of such tosh? I mean regurgitating the same rubbish can only go so far. Although the adulation heaped upon Serena Williams for her meltdown may get a few more days of articles denouncing Teh Patriarchy.
I have a love/hate relationship with the old posts and comment threads. “Hate” because I spend too much time re-reading them; “love” because I get to remember that Rachel Dolezal’s chosen Nigerian name is an anagram for, “Heck Milo, I dare anal.”
Good news everyone ! EF does not have a monopoly on delusional thinking, More Science! (not to be confused with Morse Science)
I temember Melissa. She looks between 35-45 and has this incongruous chirpy-cheerleader voice. Also her demeanor doesn’t go with what she’s saying. In Oliver Sacks’s “The Man Who Mistook His Wife For a Hat” Sacks tells of the people on the aphasic ward sitting around the TV laughing like hyenas. Sacks went in to see what was so funny. Then-U.S. President Ronald Reagan was giving a speech and the aphasics were a highly appreciative audience. “That man doesn’t believe a word he’s saying!” one patient explained to Sachs—believe it or not, in the 1980’s a politician not believing a word he said was still unusual enough to be humorous. When I watched Melissa I got a taste of how the aphasics experienced the world.
That said, Melissa may have the last laugh if people keep sending her $35/pop for “seminars.” I suggested David try the same scam, and even offered sample topics, but our host has yet to start printing money in this way. David, what’s the hold-up? (So to speak.)
MC, you would not die alone; you would have your trusty sock with you to the end!
Do we have any readers in hurricane zones? If so, when you get your power back let us know how you are!
As for who’s dating them, it’s each other, of course; they reject Darwin, too.
Actually, no. They don’t. And this is actually quite a problem for them, as was pointed to by an Instapundit-linked article a while back. The link, which is included with a brain-bleach warning, can be found here.
The upshot, for those wise enough to not read it, is that the “gender nonconforming” community (their term, not mine) has trouble getting dates, because (a) people outside said community dismiss them as hideous freaks, and (b) people within said community are undesirable.
Yes, it’s actually a complaint that they are self selecting themselves into nonexistence. Something must be done!
The blame, clearly, lies with those outside the weirdo-American community, of course. You know, the mentally stable, emotionally balanced types who waste time on things like hygiene and staying fit, rather than “celebrating” being 320 pounds overweight by dying their pubic hair, and writing political tracts blaming their self-loathing on capitalism, and the inherent racism of the system.
“Stop appropriating my culture!”
Champagne comedy!
mental health problems “can… enhance polyamory in many unique ways.
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Well, yeah. Mental health problems can enliven any number of activities in err…. interesting ways. Easily landing you on the fromt page of the Mail.
re. Serena Williams (that forename is looking a tad ironic nowadays) she must be feeling quite fulfilled now. Not only is she still the dominant player in womens tennis but now she can also claim the mantle of Holy Victimhood. ™ Nice work, if you can get it.
I think the ubiquity of facial piercings on young women is part of a sexual selection evolutionary arms race. Naturally beautiful women will always be attractive to men. Makeup levels the playing field, allowing less beautiful women to compete with the naturally beautiful ones. But facial ironmongery is ugly, so only really beautiful women can sport it and still be beautiful. It’s a self-handicap, like a peacock’s tail, that proves your evolutionary fitness, but it only works if everybody adopts it. Fortunately for really beautiful women, women are slaves to fashion. About ten years ago all young women had to wear hipster jeans, which suited skinny women but looked horrendous on curvy ones, but the curvy ones didn’t have the sense to defy fashion and wear clothes that suited them (high-waisted jeans are now fashionable, which look better on curvy women). Currently it’s nearly compulsory for young women to have facial piercings – straight-laced girls, vicars’ wives and the like, only have discreet little studs in the sides of their noses – so naturally beautiful women have the advantage again.
The link, which is included with a brain-bleach warning, can be found here.
Uurgh. Oh well, I needed something to encourage me to start on the actual work of the day.
Everyday Feminism’s former managing editor, Melissa Fabello.
She looks like the Joker from Batman.
She looks like the Joker from Batman.
There is, I think, something odd going on, with the terracotta face and the green hair. But then I’m still trying to process the whole ‘shave-off-your-eyebrows-and-then-paint-them-on-again-badly’ thing, which seems very much in fashion.
“Some body acceptance activists, sexuality scholars, and patriarchy smashers just want to watch the world burn.”
She looks like the Joker from Batman.
You have to marvel at a woman who emphatically denounces “white supremacist capitalist cisheteropatriarchal standards of feminine beauty,” while re-tweeting flattering comments about how pretty she is, and while sharing endless selfies, all of which entail heavy filtering and kilos of make-up. In a desperate attempt to achieve the kind of effect that she claims to despise.
The word broken comes to mind.
…and here is the authoress of today’s nonsense.
Good Lord. Think of her four poor children.
“Mom, did you HAVE to pose in your underwear with ‘MILF’ scribbled over your belly?”
Yes. Yes, she did. Because that’s what unhinged people do.
But then I’m still trying to process the whole ‘shave-off-your-eyebrows-and-then-paint-them-on-again-badly’ thing…
It has been done before, perhaps this is the looks she is going for.
Actually. with a moustache and glasses, she would be eerily close.
body acceptance activists
If they are so accepting, then why do they persist in altering their bodies with tattoos, piercings, and so on? /rhetorical question
…then why do they persist in altering their bodies with tattoos, piercings, and so on…
Modern day dazzle camouflage so you really can’t tell the size, shape, or direction well ?
I mean regurgitating the same rubbish can only go so far.
Do you not know that there are new suckers being born every minute?
EF does not have a monopoly on delusional thinking, More Science!
Someone over there proposed that SJW “thinking” caused brain cancer. I believe they are on to something, though I would call it personality cancer. Social carcinogen leads to disordered personality in one cell, cell going unchecked leads to malignant tumors taking over social institutions; prest-o change-o, you have police painting their nails and enforcing alien blasphemy laws while stabbings and grooming gangs go unchecked.
But facial ironmongery is ugly, so only really beautiful women can sport it and still be beautiful. It’s a self-handicap, like a peacock’s tail, that proves your evolutionary fitness, but it only works if everybody adopts it.
Already attractive females do it to appear as something more exotic, making them stand out among others already attractive. Less attractive females do it to emulate the former.
The mohawks, black lipstick, and nostril-to-earlobe chains the 80s punk “rejection of beauty” look? It was never about trying to look not-beautiful. It was about trying to out-exotic first the normal girls, then each other.
The mohawks, black lipstick, and nostril-to-earlobe chains the 80s punk “rejection of beauty” look
John Lydon once said that he “hated the punks – they took our look and made it a uniform. Totally missed the point!”
You disappeared. I was worried.
You disappeared. I was worried.
Well, Typepad did.
It occurs to me that I should make little action figures of me looking glorious and reassuring, so all you heathens can make it through these stressful periods of downtime.
Maybe we should all get together and group fund a 3D-printed David homunculus.
I’d expect to be fully articulated. With accessories, sold separately.
Well, Typepad did.
OK…if you say so…my ummmm…strategic initiative for the SYPD shall be put on hold…for now. The things that distract me from my lunch. Sigh…
He was in the gents, now that it’s safe to go in again.
Umm…we’re out of matches. Don’t ask me how I know.
You disappeared. I was worried.
I just figured it was the interweb rozzers what had nicked you for our non-criminal comments might have been perceived by the West Yorkshire plod as being motivated by “hate”, prejudice, or derision, and even though clearly non criminal our reasons for posting scurrilous commentary about them and the fetching lassies above must have been because the interweb 5-0 are mind readers and could therefore shut things down because there could conceivably have been an offense.
Woot you’re back!
A David action figure sounds intriguing. What accessories would come with it? er…be sold separately?
“…sometimes we may need so much care that our partners don’t have anything left over to give to other partners.”
It is all about getting attention so that others can take care of them. I used to call this the Downton Abbey syndrome, which involves a fixation on having lots of staff to take care of one. But lately I have discovered this:
https://www.ted.com/talks/ed_yong_suicidal_wasps_zombie_roaches_and_other_tales_of_parasites?language=en
and I now think of them as the parasites of western civilization. I do not think I am the first to notice this similarity, but I think it really fits. They have taken over our civilization and corrupted our minds so that we take care of them, to our own detriment.
Apparently, the new iPhone launch has been ruined by the presidency of Donald Trump.
The fiend!
Accessories (sold separately):
—pickled “egg”
—credit slip
—can of Oust
Collect them all!
With accessories, sold separately.
But not the Special Edition.
It should have SE accessories, not available separately.
Similarly the subsequent Deluxe and Anniversary Editions.
Apparently, the new iPhone launch has been ruined by the presidency of Donald Trump.
At least it makes a nice change from James Corden. Is there nothing he won’t ruin for money?
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Accessories (sold separately):
—pickled “egg”
—credit slip
—can of Oust
Collect them all!
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Are the Henchlesbians avaialable as a set, or individually?
I mean the 3D replicas, not the *actual* Henchlesbians, of course. Although…
Individually, of course. Collect them all!
Apparently, the new iPhone launch has been ruined by the presidency of Donald Trump.
I skimmed the article; it seemed to be stream-of-consciousness wibble. You might be right that the above was its message, I couldn’t detect anything coherent.
You jest, but we can make this happen.
Why, despite proclaiming their ‘fierce individuality’ at every opportunity, do they all seem to look so alike?
Why, despite proclaiming their ‘fierce individuality’ at every opportunity, do they all seem to look so alike?
And despite claiming to be fearless, empowered Valkyries, they’re apparently oppressed by everything, from deodorant and earrings to remembering birthdays and ordering takeaway.
Even the very air crushes them.
Apologize!
Apropos of nothing, a noted racist weighs in on the “migrant” mess in Europe.
A feminist makes a very thoughtful fashion statement here:
A feminist makes a very thoughtful fashion statement here:
At risk of being presumptuous, I don’t think her life will pan out in quite the way she’d hoped.
I don’t think her life will pan out in quite the way she’d hoped.
I don’t know, she has already had a successful career as a model.
A feminist makes a very thoughtful fashion statement here
Toxic feminism.
Apparently, the new iPhone launch has been ruined by the presidency of Donald Trump.
It *was* a bit of a letdown. 🙂
A feminist makes a very thoughtful fashion statement here:
The face that launched a thousand ships.
Toxic feminism.
Facial tattoos are generally an indicator that some wiring has come loose.
The face that launched a thousand ships.
Yes, but unlike the original these ships are headed away from her.
Facial tattoos are generally an indicator that some wiring has come loose.
They really are a good indicator that the wearer has decided to part company with what most people would call normality, i.e, a steady job, a clean place to live, and friends who aren’t “known to the police”. It’s very helpful of them actually to give the rest of us a handy visual indicator to assist in avoidance.
Facial tattoos are generally an indicator that some wiring has come loose.
Not to mention cultural appropriation of Maori wymxn when wypipo wxmyn them.
The face that launched a thousand ships.
As in “Let’s get the hell out of here!”
It’s very helpful of them actually to give the rest of us a handy visual indicator to assist in avoidance.
Aposematism, yes indeed.
Facial tattoos are generally an indicator that some wiring has come loose.
Heh…this and the fatties stories remind me of a discussion I got into ….looks like eight years ago…at the Talking Philosophy blog (seems to be mostly defunct now) on an article by the (well known?) Jeremy Stangroom regarding the Trolley Problem. Can’t find the original discussion, might have found the article, but the comments are not accessible. IIRC the issue was somewhat related to there being a “fat man” in the original story who might be pushed in the way of a trolley to save six other people’s lives. One thing led to another in the discussion, which Jeremy was active in, and I suggested a variation on the experiment, again don’t recall the exact specifics. The moral dilemma was something such that you had seen a world famous medical doctor, one who had saved many lives, and he was running from someone. Another man shows up and is visibly angry and has facial tattoos. You have a split second to make a decision to possibly save the doctor’s life by taking out the guy with the facial tattoos. Again, I don’t recall how I exactly worded it but I was trying to get to some-further-down-the-line point but the discussion got stuck on what I had against people with facial tattoos.
but the discussion got stuck on what I had against people with facial tattoos.
I was reminded of a Guardian TV ad from the mid-80s, this one here, in which a skinhead appears to be about to rob or assault some chap with a briefcase, only to be revealed as saving him from falling bricks. This was assumed to be a measure of the Guardian’s sophistication, in revealing the viewer’s latent bigotry towards people who look like thugs. And yet, at the time the ad was aired, it would have been unwise to assume that a rapidly approaching skinhead was only intent on saving you from falling masonry.
People give signals. It’s generally wise to heed them.
I was reminded of a Guardian TV ad from the mid-80s,
Ye Gods!
A Guardian ad in which 3 white people feature.
And our sympathy is supposed to be with the working-class white lad.
A different world.
And an insight into how the Left has changed as well.
(Having said that, even at the time I thought the ad was typical Grauniad bollocks)
Because I just had to. It was just sitting there, like a ripe plum to be picked. Would you have done any differently?
100! (Wheee!)