Feminist Life Skills
I am a truth-teller, if nothing else.
So says Meghan Murphy, whose frankness and modesty entertained us quite recently. Not least with her belief that the world needs “a feminist revolution… an end to masculinity,” and that “it’s time to consider a curfew for men.” Our self-effacing Amazon and speaker of truths, and editor of “Canada’s leading feminist website,” is once again sharing her wisdom with the world’s downtrodden womenfolk, with “Ten things every woman should know by the time she’s 36.” The nuggets on offer cover a spectrum of womanly woes, from the prosaic – buying shoes that fit as opposed to ones that don’t – to matters more profound:
(3) Love, marriage, and heterosexual couplings will not complete you or make you happy.
Specifically,
I’m not saying that having positive, loving relationships with men is impossible. But it’s very hard.
Because,
First of all, most men are men… They are men who have been socialised as men in a world that teaches them male entitlement… As much as a man might be good and kind and loving, he’s still going to exhibit certain behaviours that will remind you that, oh right, I’m a woman living with a person who has spent their whole life in a position of power over me and my sisters and he will never fully understand what that’s like.
You see,
Patriarchy makes heterosexual love next to impossible. Do your best to live the life you want regardless of whether or not there is a man in it and remember that having a man in it won’t necessarily make your life any better… Often, in fact, it makes it worse.
At which point readers may wonder if this severely jaundiced view of men – in which masculinity is something to “end” as a matter of urgency, and in which a male presence in one’s life is deemed likely to make it worse – is an obvious aid to success in the world of heterosexual romance. With heterosexual love being “next to impossible,” despite it occurring frequently across much of the planet’s surface. And some of you may be wondering whether the wholesale regurgitation of radfem boilerplate, including demands for male curfews, may give potential suitors the impression of being seated with a woman in need of medication. A perception unlikely to enhance any hopes of contented lifelong coupling.
However, if attempts to attract a male life partner fail – possibly as a result of explaining to him, at length, why he and other men are so ignorant, oppressive and dysfunctional – there is a consolation prize:
(10) You should get a dog.
So. Not a total loss.
(3) Love, marriage, and heterosexual couplings will not complete you or make you happy.
Yes; she knows better than you what you need.
(10) You should get a dog.
Not a cat?
I’m a man (shock, horror!). I’ve got a dog (male, no bitch for me).
Where does that leave me?
And once she gets a dog she’s going to need a Subaru Forester to transport it around in.
(10) You should get a dog.
So. Not a total loss.
Except for the dog.
readers may wonder if this severely jaundiced view of men – in which masculinity is something to “end” as a matter of urgency, and in which a male presence in one’s life is deemed likely to make it worse – is an obvious aid to success in the world of heterosexual romance.
If I’d gone through life thinking all women are neurotic nags, I wouldn’t be surprised at ending up alone.
If I’d gone through life thinking all women are neurotic nags, I wouldn’t be surprised at ending up alone.
Well, quite. It does seem a lot like a self-fulfilling prophesy. Though I think you’re showing a level of empathy and imagination that’s apparently not available to Ms Murphy and her readers.
“heterosexual couplings will not complete you or make you happy.”
On the other hand, a threesome will blow your socks off. Or so I am told.
1) Most people and things are bad and dumb
Wow, she must surround herself with awesomeness.
Thus far in my own heterosexual coupling and its inevitable reproductive consequences I have experienced obligation and duty; when do I get my entitlement and power?
My beloved wife (pbuh) has asked me to tell you that she likes your blog.
My beloved wife (pbuh) has asked me to tell you that she likes your blog.
I see you married well.
(10) You should get a dog.
I’m betting on a poodle……
and a pair of zircon encrusted tweezers.
2) You don’t have to be nice and you should not be nice
8) You do not have to like sex or porn or porny sex or strip shows or burlesque
She sounds like a huge amount of fun to be around. She’s 36 and has mysteriously been able to avoid an LTR with any kind of a man, even one of those masochistic male feminists cruising for a kicking in her comments section, and yet she’s an expert in male behavior?
Yes, the comments are positively seething with feminist bonhomie.
I’m now trying to picture the kind of man who’d want to spend his life with someone in favour of male curfews and “an end to masculinity.”
I’m now trying to picture the kind of man who’d want to spend his life with someone in favour of male curfews and “an end to masculinity.”
Don’t do that David, it can only lead to nightmares.
I’m now trying to picture the kind of man who’d want to spend his life with someone in favour of male curfews and “an end to masculinity.”
Like that.
Radical feminism, AKA How To Ruin Your Life.
Dear Meghan, when you hit sixty you can either be quietly pleased about how well your grandchildren are turning out, or retire to spend more time with your pet. Your choice.
Radical feminism, AKA How To Ruin Your Life.
Well, it’s odd that the defiantly feminist Ms Murphy feels it necessary to tell us that she doesn’t “feel mad or sad or depressed all the time.” What with having to wash the dishes and heterosexual love being “next to impossible.” And based on Ms Murphy’s worldview, and many others we’ve seen, it does seem to be a gospel of failure and unhappiness. Bad medicine.
A dog? Commenter’s correcting to “A cat”? I thought that by 36 she’d be up to a dozen cats.
I always wonder why these man-haters don’t simply band together, buy up some land in nowhereistan, and establish their own femitopias. It would be an interesting social experiment to observe them maintaining their own physical infrastructure and economy without the burden of oppressive masculinity keeping them in their places.
Radical feminists tend to be a very bitter bunch, mainly because the only men interested in spending time with them are insecure immature momma’s boys.
… readers may wonder if this severely jaundiced view of men – in which masculinity is something to “end” as a matter of urgency, and in which a male presence in one’s life is deemed likely to make it worse – is an obvious aid to success in the world of heterosexual romance.
Readers may, or should, wonder what you will have when you end masculinity. Sorry, I worded that wrong, what you won’t have (US Dept of Labor list of occupations more than 75% male.)
Oh, and kill your own damn spiders.
(10) You should get a dog
That would be animal cruelty
I always wonder why these man-haters don’t simply band together, buy up some land in nowhereistan, and establish their own femitopias. It would be an interesting social experiment to observe them maintaining their own physical infrastructure and economy without the burden of oppressive masculinity keeping them in their places.
Because that would involve actual physical and mental effort and, dare I say it, competence – with perhaps a hint of risk. They’d rather just whine about how terribly oppressed they are and how simply awful all those beastly men are while sitting at their computer dressed in a Fairtrade Cotton Onesie sipping cocoa.
Anyway, I just can’t even and didn’t you know it’s 2016?
I think all feminists are lesbian, but many won’t admit it so they blame men for everything that’s wrong with their twisted lives. Screw them … marry a real woman. Feminists will make you feel gay.
So she thinks women need to be told to buy shoes the right size?
So she thinks women need to be told to buy shoes the right size?
Yes, apparently it’s best to buy shoes that are roughly the same size as your feet. I hadn’t realised that women weren’t already doing this.
Darwin will have his say, as always. Think of it as “evolution in action.”
Liberal feminist women think all men are scumbags because they hang around with liberal men who are scumbags.
Conservative women think all men are pretty decent because they hang around with conservative men who are pretty decent.
I’m a woman living with a person who has spent their whole life
The replacement of the perfectly good gender-neutral possessive singular pronoun that the English language has used for a thousand years with the possessive plural is grating enough when the gender of the antecedent is unspecified – but using “their” to refer to what is unambiguously a single man is just dopey.
They are men who have been socialised as men in a world that teaches them male entitlement…
I have found there are few demographics more entitled, as demonstrated by a lengthy list of requirements and a continuous refrain of disappointment from past encounters, than women who have passed 30, are losing their looks, and are slowly realizing the dating tables have flipped and maybe they shouldn’t have left that nice when they were 27 after all. I hear the words “I deserve” a lot. A lot of them espouse feminist viewpoints.
nice *guy*
@Jonathan
Anyway, I just can’t even
Well done, sir, ‘wow, just wow’ is sooo 2015!
Do your best to live the life you want regardless of whether or not there is a man in it and remember that having a man in it won’t necessarily make your life any better.
How about “Do your best to live the life you want and remember to stop blaming men for everything you screw up on your own.” Side benefit: this new attitude might enable you to find a man who likes to be with you. We Neanderthals actually enjoy women who stand on their own two feet.
“seething with feminist bonhomie”
Oh, I will be recycling THIS…. 8^)
Where “left” is equivalent to “gone bat-shit insane on”
You don’t have to be nice and you should not be nice
She seems to imagine that being polite and amiable, despite disagreement and conflict of interests, is impossible, at least between men and women. For her, it is either submission or angry outburst: polite assertion or agreeable discussion (leading perhaps to compromise) is not on her agenda at all. This suggests she is inadequately socialised and that she has ‘daddy issues’. After all, daddy made his own yoghurt – but let’s not get Freudian here – while raising a neurotic brat with no manners and a massive sense of entitlement.
“My beloved wife (pbuh) has asked me to tell you that she likes your blog.”
My beloved wife (pbuh) has asked me to tell you that I like your blog.
My beloved wife (pbuh) has asked me to tell you that I like your blog.
You also chose wisely.
If those horny, sensitive, touque headed throatbeards would stop tring to bang to the FemNazis, they will eventually non breed themselves out of our misery.
Well done, sir, ‘wow, just wow’ is sooo 2015!
Thanks. It is ( insert current year) after all.
I always wonder why these man-haters don’t simply band together, buy up some land in nowhereistan, and establish their own femitopias.
Surely you’ve heard of a “university.”
She seems to imagine that being polite and amiable, despite disagreement and conflict of interests, is impossible . . .
That’s because she’s created her own reality where a) all human interaction is zero-sum with only winners and losers and b) every issue is moral at its core. Your comment interaction with the Coppola person you mentioned the other day is the perfect example. She believes you are immoral even though you merely expressed a different solution to an agreed-upon problem. For these people, the default in any disagreement is self-proclaimed righteous indignation, because it makes them feel better.
She seems to imagine that being polite and amiable, despite disagreement and conflict of interests, is impossible, at least between men and women.
I’m reminded of the prophetic movie PCU. Specifically the scene wherein a rabid, hairy-pitted, un-shampooed, Feminist is exposed to the life-changing epiphany that “if you’re nice to them [men]…they’ll *give* you things?”.
I have to re-watch that movie. Hard to believe it’s over 20 years old now.
Surely you’ve heard of a “university.”
Indeed, yet such refuges still harbor their share of the enstaffed. I suspect even those catering exclusively to womyn avail themselves of male maintenance personnel.
OMG! Having a loving relationship won’t be effortless? I can’t just recline on a couch and have my every whim fulfilled with little more than a twitch of my little finger?
Than screw that …
I’m just want to slap females (or males) who act like large babies who expect to take with never giving in return.
At least actual babies have an excuse – their very survival.
Men and women are fundamentally different and heterosexual love is about learning to love the ultimate Other. To recognize the differences, appreciate and embrace them. A successful relationship will be one of trust, communication, give AND take.
It means becoming a functional adult.
A goal too many people actively wish to avoid these days.
It really is a mystery why feminists are so unlucky in love.
ENHANCE:
Radical feminism, AKA How To Ruin Your Life
..ruins everyone else’s, too. Though is this stuff radical or 3rd wave? I always forget
Meghan Murphy once deleted a comment of mine. Can’t think why. Kind of a badge of honour, I feel.
btw, Janice Fiamengo’s latest video starts off slowly then turns into a calmly delivered but impassioned rant against feminism that makes my occasional complaints seem insipid.
I was stumped when I read this. My wife has all the children she wanted, is never going to work again even after they’ve grown up, spends however much she wants on whatever she wants, and I have to keep a relatively high paying job to finance this whole show. Where is my privige? I’m basically a magic ATM. I bet a lot of other family men are basically doing the same thing. I don’t see what these so-called feminists have to complain about.
David: Thus, the Mistress. Nothing ever changes, really.
@Steve
Why is Mickey Rooney addressing a a bunch of feminist Marxists? A mea culpa for being married eight times and making lots of money?
“It means becoming a functional adult.
A goal too many people actively wish to avoid these days.”
Darleen nails it.
Darwin will have his say, as always.
I can’t help thinking there’s a moral to this story.
Surely that’s Arnie wearing a mask in the original Total Recall?
“heterosexual couplings will not complete you or make you happy.”
On the other hand, a threesome will blow your socks off. Or so I am told…………
You wear socks when you have a threesome??
Class….
“I can’t help thinking there’s a moral to this story.”
“Partially ejected”? Ouch.
My wife has all the children she wanted, is never going to work again even after they’ve grown up, spends however much she wants on whatever she wants, and I have to keep a relatively high paying job to finance this whole show. Where is my privige? I’m basically a magic ATM. I bet a lot of other family men are basically doing the same thing. I don’t see what these so-called feminists have to complain about.
Perhaps that they have been unable to find the same magic ATM that your wife and so many others did?
I can’t help thinking there’s a moral to this story.
Actually, the only possible addition to Darwin will have his say, as always. is There’s a hipster born every minute., really . . .
Except for the dog.