Hand-Me-Down Trauma
In the pages of Scary Mommy, where progressive ladies roar, Elaine Roth wishes us to know about her mental health problems:
There’s a running monologue whispering in the back of my mind. Maybe it’s whispering in the back of your mind, too.
My running monologue isn’t unique to me. Countless women across the country — maybe across the globe — experience a similar monologue. It results from a shared trauma, and it’s got a name: Patriarchy Stress Disorder, or PSD.
I fear woo may be incoming.
PSD is the idea that the mental, physical, and emotional impact of gender inequality is a trauma that impacts woman and builds over time, and over generations.
It is, we’re assured, a “collective intergenerational trauma,” and “genetically transmitted,” “passed down in our genes” – albeit in ways left entirely mysterious.
PSD can impact anyone, including nonbinary people and men. Still, few people have heard of patriarchy stress disorder,
You see, you haven’t heard of it, this new and modish ailment, for which no convincing definition is offered, beyond unspecified “systems of inequality” and repeating the word patriarchy many, many times. And yet apparently, simultaneously, we’re assured that said ailment – and its purported transmission – is the obvious go-to explanation for why “high-achieving women” – ladies much like Ms Roth – have so often failed “to have it all and thrive,” despite the promises of feminism. Why supposedly empowered ladies fail to “own their own shine.”
We’re told that the term patriarchy stress disorder was coined by “Dr Valerie Rein, Ph.D.,” and that Dr Rein – allegedly a “women’s mental health expert” – “learned that trauma could be genetically transmitted.” A link is provided, introducing us to “Dr Valerie” – though, again, no explanation or evidence of this alleged genetic transmission is included. We’re merely told that “trauma lives in our nervous system.” Which, as you can imagine, is immensely helpful. A second link, written by the expert in question, supposedly explaining Patriarchy Stress Disorder and its transmission, does no such thing. A third link, to the pages of Good Housekeeping, is similarly mysterious and short on particulars.
The symptoms of this phantom, catch-all disorder are numerous, often vague, and seemingly unrelated. The list includes insomnia; feeling a “need to try harder;” feeling insufficiently happy about pretty much anything; feeling “uneasy,” or greedy, or ungrateful. Feeling that one isn’t a sexual athlete. Or just being displeased by one’s own fatness. Almost any kind of uncertainty or dissatisfaction, whether substantive or self-indulgent, can now, it seems, be blamed on “the trauma of our ancestors” and the drowning of witches, and thus on “gender inequality,” however non-existent in the here and now. Whatever the woe, or fit of neuroticism, the cause, we’re assured, is “as pervasive as it is invisible,” and, says Dr Valerie, “It’s not our fault… it has nothing to do with us.”
Exactly how Ms Roth, a writer and Pilates instructor, is oppressed by “patriarchy,” and how she has been traumatised by it, crushed by the aforementioned “systems of inequality,” is not made clear either, and no examples are forthcoming. None whatsoever. Perhaps expectations of evidence – even a single, relevant anecdote – are now considered superfluous and impolite. Readers of Scary Mommy are nonetheless expected to nod in agreement, before checking their breasts for signs of “inherited trauma.” Readers may wish to ponder the appeal of a worldview, an intersectional science-fiction narrative, in which one’s feelings and resentments – and any number of failures and shortcomings – aren’t actually one’s own, but are instead somehow inherited, like sickle cell anaemia or grandma’s knick-knacks.
Via Princess Cutekitten.
Ah, a button. I wonder what it does.
If the patriarchy hadn’t died in western civilization about 50 years ago, she might have a point.
Maybe she’s a time traveler.
Oh no: Instalanch again!
Homeopathic Trauma, caused by Homeopathic Violence…
Mass Hysteria continues to metastasize.
“Has it never occurred to these women* that it is impossible for anyone, man or woman, to ‘have it all’?”
Well, that’s not entirely true. Many men have “had it all” in the sense of having (a) a satisfying and fulfilling career and (b) as much time with their family as they want for their family time to feel equally satisfying and fulfilling, in the confidence of the support and commitment of their partners in that family. It’s not unreasonable for women to gripe that they don’t seem able to pull off this same feat.
The problem women have had with attempting to realize this same accomplishment is twofold:
1) To achieve the same career success as men, women generally have to devote at least as much time as men, which means by definition that their children get less time, and women experience this loss of time with their children far more painfully than men do;
2) For the family to be happy and healthy, in practice one partner has to focus on home and children over work, and men willing to defer their own career ambitions to be a househusband become by that very deference less respectable, interesting and fulfilling as partners to the women who need them. (If a woman wants a career because she despises the idea of being a homemaker, how can she be expected to respect a male partner willing to reduce himself to a vocation she sees as beneath her own dignity?)
Put simply, men only get to “have it all” because they know exactly what they are willing to pass up in one area to secure accomplishment in another, and are (mostly) far more willing to live with these choices (the number of men rendered miserable workaholics by poor home lives is not inconsiderable, either). Until feminism is willing to admit these intractable issues it is going to continue pounding its head against a brick wall, I think.
I suspect that Dr. Rein learned that trauma could be genetically transmitted by reading Jack London’s Before Adam.
On second thought, I doubt she’s ever read London, he was a toxic male donchaknow. Maybe she learned it watching the Assassin’s Creed movie.
It is not even remotely coincidental that college-level biology courses are much easier than inorganic chemistry courses, which are much easier than organic chemistry courses. Back when I was studying chemical engineering, second-year org chem was the undergrad killer.
She was flunking org chem, which means she’s never going to have a medical career. This is the Angry Black Woman equivalent of pulling the fire alarm during an exam.
Turns out that one does NOT “inherit trauma” but may (and researchers say it’s rare) inherit sensitivity
It’s not rare. The amygadala is the part of the brain that regulates the fight-or-flight response; it’s what lights up in response to perceived danger and triggers the body’s various endocrine responses. Its baseline sensitivity is heritable, but in normal people it gets desensitized as they grow up by constant exposure to mild stresses like playground fights and having to eat vegetables you don’t like.
Whether someone develops PTSD after a severe trauma is determined by how sensitive their amygdala is, which is a combination of those two factors. If they have a genetic tendency towards an extremely sensitive amygdala, their children will inherit it.
The reason the inheritance seems rare is that for it to show up under these circumstances, you need:
1) A parent with a naturally sensitive amygdala;
2) Whose amygdala remained sensitive into adulthood due to a lack of exposure to moderate stress;
3) Who suffered a severe trauma before reproducing;
4) Had a child who inherited their sensitive amygdala;
5) Also retained a sensitive amygdala into adulthood;
6) And suffered a trauma severe enough to trigger PTSD-like reactions
Absent any one of the conditions and you don’t get the observable effect that parents with PTSD are more likely to have children with PTSD.
This, btw, is why BPD/NPD/CPTSD was thought to be heritable for many years; even controlling for the fact that parents with CPTSD tend to traumatize their children, the reason the parents developed CPTSD in the first place was a naturally hypersensitive amygdala.
Until feminism is willing to admit these intractable issues it is going to continue pounding its head against a brick wall
Feminism isn’t about equality, it’s about stoking divisions between men and women to create the inevitable class/race/sex war that will lead to the glorious revolution.
Back when I was studying chemical engineering, second-year org chem was the undergrad killer.
I knew a number of chemistry majors and pre-med students. It was not uncommon for them to take a reduced course load in the semester that they took Organic Chemistry. Organic, Diff Eq’s, and nothing else.
She was flunking org chem, which means she’s never going to have a medical career. This is the Angry Black Woman equivalent of pulling the fire alarm during an exam.
Probably for the best: I would not want to be under the care of an Angry Black Woman (or Man).
having to eat vegetables you don’t like
Stop oppressing me!
Ah, organic chemistry.
Boy Two is a ChemEng major who is “enjoying” his organic chemistry class so I understand those comments.
Instalanch
“It’s David Thompson, so fight the patriarchy by reading the whole thing.”
Organic, Diff Eq’s, and nothing else
O_o I wouldn’t want to take DEs and Org Chem in the same year, much less the same semester.
Stop oppressing me!
No. And eat your broccoli. It’s an antioxidant.
These bozos think the impinging of reality on their bubble is oppression. Things like tradeoffs, and everything costs, and other people have rights, and you have to work your way up, and courtesy goes a long way. They do not want to look up to heroes because it makes them feel bad about their shitty life.
Apologies to the real bozo.
Well, victimhood, however pretentious, is now a kind of status. A ready-made identity, and often a substitute for a personality or individual charm.
Well then, the just need to go get a tatou, that seems to be the current substitute for personality or individual charm…
She was flunking org chem”
Wasn’t doing great at inorg, either. Point is that “chem” classes have been dialed back (as have most others), so there’s “kollege chem” for all, then “slightly advanced” (now called inorg), then on to organic. Her screed is unclear, but seems she bailed on both…
Either way, sad that she’s a voice for Haaavad.
O_o I wouldn’t want to take DEs and Org Chem in the same year, much less the same semester.
“The DEs give me the DTs.”
I never took Org Chem, but DE was indeed tough. Likewise Quantum Mechanics and Theory of Electromagnetism.
Wasn’t doing great at inorg, either.
I suppose I should repeat that I concluded from her political complaints that she was struggling with the course material: If she had been doing well then she would not have been so chronically unhappy.
I have chosen a path to justice and healing that is rooted in self-love and preservation.
That path will involve either a “grievance studies” degree followed by a career using Diversity Inclusion and Equity dogma to bully white and Asian people, or else she will drop out to work in a restaurant where she can spit in people’s food.
Today is the anniversary of the taking of the HMS Macedonian by the USS United States.
Free trade and sailor’s rights!
“PSD can impact anyone, including nonbinary people and men.”
Well, she may have something there. Just look at PMS.
“PSD” sounds like it’s actually “PDS” — Patriarchy Derangement Syndrome.
#SupplyChain: The local Chinese restaurant is out of bean sprouts. Bean sprouts.
Chinese restaurant is out of bean sprouts.
You say that as if it is a bad thing.
Today is Saint Crispin’s Day.
You say that as if it is a bad thing.
You can’t make Hong Kong style chow fun noodle dishes with bean sprouts. Barbarian.
Without bean sprouts. Without! See how angry you’ve made me, you heathen? Heretic! Goth! Defiler of all that is sacred!
Without bean sprouts.
Substitute biodegradeable packing peanuts, same taste, more filling.
Care to step outside?
Care to step outside?
I already am, got some char siu going over a coat fire.
Might be able to scrounge a can of La Choy from a hobo for you…
Sidewindin’ bushwackin’, hornswagglin’ cracker croaker!
Sad, no sprouts and you have the Hong Kong Blues.
Sad, no sprouts and you have the Hong Kong Blues.
I didn’t recognize it until I clicked the link. Just for that fun link I won’t kill you. This time. (Insert the cheesiest 1930’s gangster film dialogue you can think of.)
On a more serious note, anyone have an answer to my Walt Kelly question in the previous thread?
…I won’t kill you. This time.
Yeah, yeah. I’ve been killed more times than you have had hot suppers, Sonny Jim.
Isn’t that expression supposed to be Sunny Jim? Or did it mutate when it came across the Atlantic?
Or did it mutate when it came across the Atlantic?
Sounny Jim. Covers both bases…
Re Related Victim Science: …”my body inhaled molecules of white supremacy as they seeped out of my computer…” Guys, is this one of those deadly computer viruses (virii?) they’re always banging on about on the front page of the tabloids at my supermarket checkout?
…I won’t kill you. This time. …
I’ll just hit you so hard I’ll kill your whole family.
Just so I understand the searing depth of her oppression here:
Here we have a college educated white woman who prances around in tights all day and then heads home to write a fact-free complaint column designed to sow discord and rip up the whole fabric of society to gratify her feminist egotism.
While she’s comfortably living off her deceased husband’s life insurance proceeds.
There’s a special place in Hell reserved for people like her: Canto XXVIII, Bolgia 9, “Sowers of Discord.”
You know what word I’m not comfortable with? Nuance. It’s not a real word. Like gesture. Gesture’s a real word. With gesture you know where you stand. But nuance? I don’t know, maybe I’m wrong.
Saint Crispin’s Day [1415]. Don’t forget the other ‘away’ matches previously played in the ‘series’ at Crecy [1346] and then Poitiers [1356]. The Frogs got thumped 3-0 in spite of a home ground advantage.
The Frogs got thumped 3-0 in spite of a home ground advantage
I wouldn’t say it was quite 3-0
Baceseras: I suspect Mark Steyn shared your distaste — at least, one of his favored insults for John Kerry used to be “nuancy-boy”.
Almost any kind of uncertainty or dissatisfaction, whether substantive or self-indulgent, can now, it seems, be blamed on “the trauma of our ancestors” and the drowning of witches, and thus on “gender inequality,” however non-existent in the here and now.
Snake oil.
[ Rummages under bar for tongs. Picks up discarded bra. ]
Is Felicity coming back for this?
Actually feeling kinda liberated, think I’ll leave it.
Snake oil.
Yes, pretty much. And so, dissatisfied or neurotic feminists can blame their dissatisfaction and neuroticism on other people, strangers long dead. And I should make clear that the reference to witches isn’t some flourish on my part – Dr Valerie includes it as an explanation for contemporary woe.
And if the feminist urge to displace responsibility sounds familiar, you may be thinking of this.
Actually feeling kinda liberated, think I’ll leave it.
The lost property box gets stranger by the day.
discarded bra
Band name.