Hear The Lamentations Of Unstable Leftist Women
Or, The Orange Man Wrecked My Marriage:
By now it’s a truism to point out that the election of Donald Trump… [has] prompted a wholesale realignment of American politics. But it’s also sent shock waves through heterosexual romance.
In the piously left-leaning New York magazine, Molly Langmuir invites us to sympathise with the inner turmoil of activist ladies who are blaming their unhappy marriages, their divorces and estrangements, and pretty much everything, on the continued existence of Donald Trump. There’s quite a bit of mental jungle to hack through, so bring a packed lunch:
29 percent of respondents to a May 2017 survey said their romantic relationship had been negatively affected by Trump’s presidency. And even people ostensibly on the same side of the issues as their partner have run into challenges, with the climate exacerbating or revealing new fault lines.
Ms Langmuir introduces us to several pseudonymous couples and singletons – people for whom the merest deviation in thought has proved too much to bear. First up, we meet Kirsten:
Growing up, my parents were very liberal. My dad’s gay, he’s been with his husband now for over 40 years. That was my normal. My mom remarried a guy who’s very liberal.
Okay, then.
In high school, I also had a major drinking problem,
No. Don’t. We mustn’t rush to judge.
I was an art major at this big university…
Though, admittedly, she’s not making it easy.
…where I really didn’t fit in. All these girls had curling irons and were rushing sororities, but again I didn’t want to rock the boat. So I just kept partying more. Then at the end of the year, I was raped at a fraternity house and didn’t say anything about it.
Events seem to have taken a dark turn.
So I go home and I meet this guy. I’ll call him Geoffrey. He was a big Republican, and I wasn’t, but he was also a big drinker, like me. We started dating. It was a kind of revenge, that I could get a guy like the guy who raped me — I could get him to be nice to me. Looking back, it was all very strange.
A little… odd, certainly. A relationship based on revenge.
But then [Geoffrey and I broke up], and I got married and then had my son, and that relationship lasted for about 14 years. After we got divorced, I got sober, and then in 2010, I found Geoffrey on Facebook.
I’m not getting the feeling that this will play out well.
We started talking. We had a good time together. I didn’t really want to get married again, but I didn’t want to make anybody mad. So I said, “Sure, let’s get married.”
It’s almost as if a pattern were emerging. But anyhoo, the politics:
I don’t think Geoffrey voted for Trump. But he might have voted for John Kasich or Jeb Bush. I think they’re all idiots. But I didn’t get involved in the Hillary campaign. I just knew she’d win.
Ah.
So when she didn’t, I fell into this black hole.
I’m going to go out on a limb here and suggest that, if your preferred candidate doesn’t win an election and you immediately spiral into serious depression, and watching Rachel Maddow on MSNBC, then the wheels on the wagon may already be rattling loose, and a little perspective may be in order. Say, a wider and more politically varied social circle, in which demurral is routine and diverging opinions don’t necessarily result in chronic rage. However, Kirsten sought solace in like-minded souls – other disaffected ladies of the left:
I was really energised. The people I was meeting were so bright and interesting.
Not everyone gets out much.
I took a class called Witnessing Whiteness and realised that racism is at the core of the problem of this country and that the only thing I can do is be an ally and show up and shut up.
And so, an alcoholic stalker of ex-boyfriends, and who bases intimate relationships on revenge, has fathomed society’s problems. And it’s all Whitey’s fault.
Geoffrey never went to one rally or meeting. He just didn’t care.
Perhaps Geoffrey wasn’t quite so enamoured of these “bright and interesting” people who think “whiteness” is the root of all social evil. Sadly, we aren’t privy to his perspective.
Then a girlfriend of mine got cancer, and I realised if I got cancer, I would’ve lived my whole life pretending to be something I’m not.
You may be assuming that I’m taking sentences from other articles, randomly, but I promise you I’m not. This is Kirsten’s reported train of thought, as shared by Ms Langmuir.
All of a sudden, I thought, I can’t be married anymore. There’s no time for complicity. There’s just none.
Yes, that’s the very next sentence. Whiteness is bad, conservatives are bad, and marriage is complicity. Do keep up.
Geoffrey was absolutely shocked. He said, “Are you 1,000 percent certain?” I said, “I am.” I told him I really wanted to work on making the world a better place, and I didn’t feel I could do that within the confines of our marriage.
At which point, I’m unsure whether to regard Geoffrey as hapless or having dodged a bullet.
I left feeling free, like in high school when your parents are out of town… Finally, I’m the feminist I should have always been.
At which point, comment is perhaps unnecessary.
Ms Langmuir goes on to share other tales of bedlamite sorrow. A woman named Samantha complains that her husband of 25 years, a fellow lefty, has “much less rage” than she does, specifically about “white privileged men,” and doesn’t wish to spend every evening equally infuriated by the existence of people whose politics differ somewhat. “Anger,” says Samantha, is her “de facto mode.” Though she’s trying to “get rid of it through therapy.”
A Brooklynite named Betsy boasts that “cultural change is like a steamroller. It flattens distinctions, and some people will get hurt,” by which she means men falsely and maliciously accused of rape, before adding, “and I’m okay with that.” Betsy and her husband are currently in counselling.
Another lady named Sarah tells us that her marriage became unsustainable “after the 2016 election, when I ramped up my political activism.” Sarah’s husband is described as “completely aligned” politically, a feminist, even, albeit one who doesn’t care to spend every waking hour raging about politics. “Talking about the Trump election,” says Sarah, “makes me more emotional than the end of my marriage.” And presumably, more emotional than the thought of her children losing the stability and reassurance of a family structure. But hey, priorities.
There are other woeful tales, all along similar lines – more than I can plough through without wanting to gnaw at my own elbows. Though readers are welcome to have a bash themselves, and then perhaps decide whether the root problem is actually, as claimed, the existence of Donald Trump, ectoplasmic “whiteness,” and the impending rape apocalypse, or something left unmentioned in the article, and maybe more specific to the ladies in question.
And so, an alcoholic stalker of ex-boyfriends, and who bases intimate relationships on revenge, has fathomed society’s problems. And it’s all Whitey’s fault.
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Bless you, sir. May you never be shamed by the condition of your oven gloves.
I told him I really wanted to work on making the world a better place, and I didn’t feel I could do that within the confines of our marriage.
NARRATOR: She didn’t make the world a better place.
Ah yes, Human Behaviour Fallacy #1, isn’t it? “My misbehaviour is ALL YOUR FAULT!!!”
{ – and #2 of course is, “Yeah but HE got-away with it!” – }
NARRATOR: She didn’t make the world a better place.
Perhaps she was healing the world by haranguing random white people and telling them how racist they are, and that they should “shut up,” on account of their being white.
Good times.
racism is at the core of the problem of this country
From that it follows that if there had never been any non-white people in the US then everything would be hunky-dory, and you’d have a happy marriage and life? Not quite believing that one.
I didn’t really want to get married again, but I didn’t want to make anybody mad. So I said, “Sure, let’s get married.”
I have seen some terrible reasons to get married before, but not wanting to make someone mad is a cake topper.
…I realised if I got cancer, I would’ve lived my whole life pretending to be something I’m not.
Yes, because if you get cancer, you die the next day, not that pretending to be something isn’t your fault regardless of your state of health.
And presumably, more emotional than the thought of her children losing the stability and reassurance of a family structure.
My money is on stability and reassurance in that family being merely words in a dictionary, so sending the kids to an orphanarium would be a kindness.
…the impending rape apocalypse…
A government grant to whomever wants to do the research to find out why that only seems to happen to the neon hair and nose ring set.
Aside from the obvious cesspool of crazy to talk about, something that made me very sad, and rather worried:
“Then at the end of the year, I was raped at a fraternity house and didn’t say anything about it.”
I don’t believe her.
And I find that troubling. It’s been mentioned that there are no men, none (aside from genuine nutters whom I have thankfully never met, even at a remove) who think rape is good or OK, or justified, or anything other than vile and cowardly. The evolved caring-for and chivalry-towards women that men have says that if you cry rape, we’ll believe you.
But now that rape accusations have been weaponised, and thousands of women like Betsy think false accusations and convictions are OK in the Grand Utopian Plan For Make Glorious Future, and yet again words are being ideologically redefined so that rape now encompasses crap sex, regret, misunderstandings, mistakes, youthful folly, laziness and so on, that reflexive trust is being second-guessed.
I don’t think that’s healthy, nor easy to re-establish. But then, we could say that about so much of hard-won modern civility to which the clowns are geefully and self-righteously taking a destructive bat.
Ah, another article about “strong” women. That is, women who become emotional wrecks and lose all zero self-control and personal agency because of some set of circumstances, which in reality have had zero effect on their lives.
“Talking about the Trump election,” says Sarah, “makes me more emotional than the end of my marriage.” And presumably, more emotional than the thought of her children losing the stability and reassurance of a family structure. But hey, priorities.
That.
It seems it is less to do with Trump winning and more to do with Hillary losing, in which case, shouldn’t they be blaming her? With an awful fellow such as Trump as an opposition candidate you can only lose, all you needed to do is win over all those deplorable fascists without shouting them out, it really takes some kind of special moron to lose this kind of election and that is where the blame should lie.
You know, Davos had a lot of faults but he also had a point when he blamed Danny Rand for not guarding K’un-Lun as was his destiny, perhaps the ladies should learn from that, or something.
racism is at the core of the problem of this country
Well, leftist racism certainly is. But somehow I don’t think she would be pleased at my “agreement”. 😉
Ah, another article about “strong” women. That is, women who become emotional wrecks and lose all zero self-control
We’ve talked before of how Laurie Penny and her peers speak of rage as some kind of woke credential, an aspirational state, something to cultivate and sustain, indefinitely. Something to applaud and exult in. (As one of Laurie’s groupies tweeted, “I kind of long for the pure, uncomplicated political anger I felt in my early twenties.”) As if chronic, hair-trigger rage couldn’t be a sign of disproportion and unrealism, or immaturity, or bullying, or psychological weakness.
In the piously left-leaning New York magazine…
“It is the beginning of all true criticism of our time to realize that it has really nothing to say, at the very moment when it has invented so tremendous a trumpet for saying it.”
— G.K. Chesterton
…rage as some kind of woke credential, an aspirational state, something to cultivate and sustain, indefinitely. Something to applaud and exult in.
A combination of blame-shifting and appearances-centrism, daily fare of a disorder of impacted hurt, I’m thinking.
But the rage that I feel, the toxicity I exhibit is something he often doesn’t understand. [from article]
Ohhh, there’s truth in that.
The flip side is it’s also given her a new community and some new projects that have been meaningful to her.
Sigh. Making paper-mache puppets, screaming in an activist walk, and running head first into a locked door … is not a project.
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…in which case, shouldn’t they be blaming her?
No, because to their minds she didn’t lose because of the popular vote/Electoral College, Trump cheated, Russian collusion, voter suppression, hacked voting machines, and all the other fictions to which they cling.
Gods don’t bleed, as Dan Dravot discovered the hard way.
If one questions one’s gods, one must question one’s beliefs, and this lot is too self absorbed to even begin to imagine that their beliefs might be a tad off.
I can neither confirm nor deny that this is one of the people quoted in the article.
That’s… that’s an absolutely jaw dropping article.
One little thing:
With Brett Kavanaugh, the first thing he said about him, before any of the allegations, was that they were once on a panel at some alumni thing and that he seemed like a nice guy, which of course started a fight. I said, “A nice guy based on what?” Everyone is a nice guy. And then at first, when Dr. Ford came forward, his reaction had an element of “Boys will be boys” and, you know, “It was 30-something years ago.” Even after Debbie Ramirez came forward, he was like, “Do you still think he could change after college?” I was like, “No.”
Note that there’s (still) zero proof of anything in those accusations being true. Zero. There is better evidence for time travel, UFO’s, Bigfoot and Elvis being alive than Kavanaugh being a sex criminal. But the article refers to the allegations like they are events that actually happened, and are factually true.
I know that it’s a tactic of the left- lie continuously until the lies go unchallenged, and bingo! the established narrative is now false- but that’s blatant.
Oh! My!
I’ve been sexually assaulted and raped, but for a long time I didn’t identify in that way. I didn’t like the idea of seeing myself as a victim. ….
My husband and I have been together 14 years and I’ve mentioned it vaguely, but I’ve never given him details, partly because one of the guys is still in my life, and they’re kind of friends.
For clarity- because I wasn’t sure I had read this right:
1. She was raped and sexually assaulted,
2. by at least two different men.
3. One of the guys is still in her life
4. …and is friends with her husband
5. And the wife doesn’t want to point this out to the husband.
To echo David- yes, these people do have problems, but I don’t believe those problems are particularly related to Trump.
“I took a class called Witnessing Whiteness and realised that racism is at the core of the problem of this country and that the only thing I can do is be an ally and show up and shut up.”
It’s easy to brainwash alcoholics that are emotionally damaged.
[John Square:] Note that there’s (still) zero proof of anything in those accusations being true. Zero.
This has become a tiresome trope at the NYT: “Today, Trump, without evidence, said [whatever the latest half crazy, half crazy like a fox thing Trump said or tweeted here.]
Yet somehow, despite every word coming out of Susan’s being indistinguishable from pure invention — well, save for the things later shown to be actual pure invention — not once did the NYT write “Susan Ford today testified, without evidence …]
Sometimes I wonder if the NYT might, perhaps, be just that tiny bit — shocker, I know — biased.
… Susan Ford’s …
Memo to self: make Preview my friend.
We went on a group tour and became quite close with another couple. One night at dinner she was going on and on about “these Republicans,” and Craig said, “Before you go much further, you might want to know that Debbie voted for Trump.” She gave me this amazing look of disgust and said, “I thought everybody on the trip was vetted.”
There’s so much to unpack, just from this one single exclamation…
There’s so much to unpack, just from this one single exclamation…
Yes, it’s dense underbrush. But I could only hack through so much of it.
They’re OK with steamrolling innocent men as part of their “cultural change,” and coincidentally they accuse unnamed men of unverifiable past rapes.
I can’t help feeling these things are connected somehow.
…the only thing I can do is be an ally and show up and shut up.
Translated from SJW to English: “If he didn’t hit me, I’d know he didn’t really love me.”
But the article refers to the allegations like they are events that actually happened, and are factually true.
Quite. The whole damn article is that way. From Ferguson–investigated by the Obama DOJ with no charges or civil actions being filed against the officer and the entire investigation released to the public–to the “Muslim Ban” to God knows what, these people are screwing up their lives (further) based upon a counterfactual reality. It’s like these people believe they’re characters in an afternoon soap opera.
I’d wager dollars to donuts they cannot identify one single aspect of their lives which has changed for the worse since January 22, 2017. Still, they maintain that Trump is the Antichrist and we’re in the midst of the Tribulation.
And none of the discarded husbands mentioned above are even Trump supporters. Colour me unsurprised. SJWs have far more in common with Trump cultists than they seem to realise…
Ah, another article about “strong” women. That is, women who become emotional wrecks and lose all [] self-control and personal agency because of some set of circumstances, which in reality have had zero effect on their lives.
Call it the new Streisand Effect. The Baldwin Identity.
I’d wager dollars to donuts they cannot identify one single aspect of their lives which has changed for the worse since January 22, 2017. Still, they maintain that Trump is the Antichrist and we’re in the midst of the Tribulation.
Were there equivalencies and justice, normal souls would expunge madness from their midst. It would be a survival technique for the good of the species. But it’s taught, preached, and broadcast as if it’s somehow a component of a functional, normal human society.
I’d like to buy Geoffrey a beer. Sounds like he could use one.
spiral into serious depression, and watching Rachel Maddow on MSNBC,
LOL
So when she didn’t, I fell into this black hole.
Pro tip: Don’t make leftwing politics your religion.
This makes more sense when you know these people substitute politics for religion.
I’d wager dollars to donuts they cannot identify one single aspect of their lives which has changed for the worse since January 22, 2017.
I’d wager dollars to donuts they cannot identify one single aspect of their physical, material, typical workaday lives which has changed for the worse since [November 9, 2016]. FIFY.
I can identify at least one aspect of their lives that has changed, either in nature or in degree (intensity): their mental and emotional health. While some of the examples given clearly displayed unhealthy or not terribly well-adjusted lives from early on, others didn’t so much (except for their confessed disorder known as “leftism”).
I swear, the eight years of Obama was like a drug to these kinds of people — a drug cocktail called “moral superiority” and “smugness” that attached to all of their pleasure receptors, and one they’d been convinced (sold) would go on forever, or at least for their natural lives (remember the “permanent Democratic majority,” “demographics is destiny” lines they were given as freebies by the pushers?). But then their supplier goes away, and these already mentally wobbly, emotionally stunted people just flat lose it. They cannot cope that they can’t have their drug of choice anymore.
So, much like unrecovered addicts, they have to find a replacement to keep getting that dopamine/cortisol high. Family won’t do it (it never really did for these folks), but their imagined “righteous” anger does.
And, as with any person’s addiction, innocent people are harmed in that tempest of emotion, hostility, and generally being out of control.
Perhaps these marriages destroyed by Trump’s election were not founded on bedrock in the first instance? I mean insane, neurotic, and psychotic people get married all the time, but rarely are they provided a convenient, socially supported rationale such as “Orange Man bad!”
That said, I wouldn’t want to live with any of these woke folks even if Trump WEREN’T president.
Did you notice the article specified the problems only affect heterosexual romances? Because of course gay people are a monolith and all have the same opinions.
Ah, another article about “strong” women. That is, women who become emotional wrecks and lose all zero self-control
While reading the thing this morning, I had to keep reminding myself that these aren’t hormonal teenagers, but grown women, middle-aged, with husbands and children. It’s as if they’d never been told that this isn’t how adults generally behave. At least, not if they want to be happy.
Adrenaline is a drug. It’s as easy to get addicted to feelings of outrage and self pity as it is to booze.
It’s possible these very silly women will someday get a little perspective on their lives, and come to regard this sort of thing with embarrassment, embarrassment with a generous ladling of rue sauce. I hope that happens.
It probably won’t; this is likely to be how our society is composed in part going forward, tens of millions of very silly people, indoctrinated in radical left groupthink, barely able to cope with others, even of the same sympathies, on their good days.
Somewhat related:
‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’
Found here:
This is so grim. It’s the literary equivalent of staring down a shotgun barrel
A terrific fisking, kind host! Just great. And to incentivize more such posts I’ll be dropping some currency into the hat – just as soon as my bank figures out how to convert greenbacks to that cute monopoly money y’all use.
And so, an alcoholic stalker of ex-boyfriends, and who bases intimate relationships on revenge, has fathomed society’s problems. And it’s all Whitey’s fault.
Who are the racists again?
https://insights.som.yale.edu/insights/white-liberals-present-themselves-as-less-competent-in-interactions-with-african-americans
just as soon as my bank figures out how to convert greenbacks to that cute monopoly money y’all use.
Five British Pounds is about $200.
What?
Time to remember a sane woman:
https://www.thetimes.co.uk/edition/register/baroness-trumpington-of-sandwich-obituary-rsgkk2qbs
just as soon as my bank figures out how to convert greenbacks to that cute monopoly money y’all use.
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Bless you, sir. May you discover a forgotten bottle of wine stashed in the dishwasher, which you never use for washing dishes and is instead full of takeaway menus, bin liners and unfathomable blender attachments.
David doesn’t like cash. Credit notes only. 😏
I’d wager dollars to donuts they cannot identify one single aspect of their lives which has changed for the worse since January 22, 2017.
Yes they can – EVERYTHING!!!!!! – just ask them…
May you discover a forgotten bottle of wine stashed in the dishwasher, which you never use for washing dishes and is instead full of takeaway menus, bin liners and unfathomable blender attachments.
Love it. Though to be honest I’m far more likely to be shamed for the state of my oven gloves. I know, I know, no refunds etc etc