Mother’s Milk
Glenn Reynolds responds to what I can only describe as an example of malevolent feminism:
The quality men you want don’t want an angry feminist such as yourself, who’s disloyal even to her own sons. Why would they?
If you think that sounds unkind, see for yourself.
Update:
Added via the comments, a brief summary:
Jody Allard, a single mother and doctrinaire feminist – doctrinaire to a degree one might call delusional – humiliates her own teenage sons in a national newspaper – for daring to question feminist conceits and the notion of “rape culture” – and publicly disdains them as “part of the problem,” as being “men like these,” i.e., as misogynists, abusers, potential rapists.
Then the inevitable happens:
My sons encountered my words about them on their friends’ phones, their teachers’ computers, and even overheard them discussed by strangers on a crowded metro bus.
And when one of her sons explains how hurt he felt by this warped characterisation and public humiliation, Ms Allard doesn’t apologise for her betrayal. Instead, she professes a duty to “educate” him, to “challenge” his “perception of himself” as someone who’s been grossly maligned by his own mother. A mother who then publishes another article, seen widely, in which she does exactly the same thing and implies, based on nothing, that her own sons, simply by virtue of being white and male, aren’t “safe” to be around. And at no point does Ms Allard consider the possibility that this is something that sane and loving parents do not do. Neither does she pause to question her own dogma and its role in her own obvious unhappiness. An unhappiness she seems determined to spread.
And do note that one of Ms Allard’s sons has been feeling suicidal. And yet she persists.
Update 2:
Somewhat related, the feminist parenting of former educator Polly Dunning. Ms Dunning tells us that she’s totally opposed to “casual and ingrained sexism.” And yet she “felt sick” at even the thought of “something male” growing inside her. Because a son wouldn’t “fit in” with her feminism.
It’s called evil.
Well, some people get broken, or break themselves, in ways that can’t be fixed. In a rather horrible sense, they embrace a kind of destiny. And so Ms Allard doesn’t learn, and will not allow herself to learn, and despite the warnings of onlookers, and the effects on her own children, she persists. If you trawl through Ms Allard’s Twitter feed, you’ll see there’s no pause to reflect on her own actions and their consequences, none at all, even when pleaded with to do just that. Instead, every unflattering response from readers of her articles, whether scornful or concerned, is immediately construed as a validation of her behaviour.
It seems that Ms Allard’s need to be righteously feminist and crusading – which is to say, her vanity – trumps all else. And conveniently, that crusading just happens to excuse quite a bit of sadism.
Once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
Yep. And once you see it, or even suspect it, one begins to wonder about everything she claims. For example, was she in fact sexually abused and raped? Or is that just a false claim that allows her to wear the cloak of victimhood and deflect all criticism for her behavior?
implying, based on nothing, that her own sons, simply by virtue of being white and male, aren’t “safe” to be around.
Wonder what she’d make of this.
https://twitter.com/BasedMonitored/status/885546950661206016
An interesting and somewhat related article by Theodore Dalrymple.
I suppose that the mania for giving publicity to one’s own life arises from the feeling that what is only private cannot be of any importance, a feeling that is promoted by the publicity given to the supposedly intimate details of the lives of celebrities.
Turning ones life into a soap opera in order to feel alive.
I think the same dynamic (if I may call it such) is at work in the current vogue for transsexualism: “You must recognize me and not recognize me at the same time.”
Strange Days Indeed.
Wonder what she’d make of this.
Ugh. Ah, but some kinds of “toxic masculinity” – say, the kind that isn’t imaginary and which doesn’t reinforce fashionable leftist conceits – should pass unremarked. It’s the feminist way.
Re Dalrymple, this caught my eye:
Which reminded me of this.
Maybe it’s a different translation.
Indeed.
Wonder what she’d make of this.
That’s nothing. Here’s the real tragedy.
Same person?
http://www.ripoffreport.com/reports/jody-allard/seattle-washington-/jody-allard-jody-knight-james-johnson-euphrasie-jsj-livejournal-craigslist-internet-1038432
Ah, but some kinds of “toxic masculinity” – say, the kind that isn’t imaginary and which doesn’t reinforce fashionable leftist conceits – should pass unremarked. It’s the feminist way.
The ‘patriarchy’ doesn’t count when brown people do it, silly.
Dating, hmmm? I think I’m beginning to understand why Webb Wilder wrote ‘You Might Be Lonely For A reason’.
The ‘patriarchy’ doesn’t count when brown people do it, silly.
According to quite a few feminists, including our dear friend Laurie Penny, those of us who dislike the idea of women being gratuitously assaulted only ever dislike it when the people doing the assaulting have brown skin. Laurie has aired this claim several times, on Twitter and the BBC, but so far as I can tell she’s yet to offer anything approaching evidence to support it. This, however, is the preferred excuse for why she and others tend to disregard actual, grievous misogyny – from gang molestation to acid attacks – in favour of complaining at great length about something trivial or imaginary, and involving people whose skin is the right colour for feminist scolding.
Same person?
Seven kids, baby-daddy, disability – that all would be too much of a coincidence not to be, and abusing animals would also fit what appears to be the much bigger underlying problem.
Meanwhile, in the world of conflicting identity groups, there appears to be a slight problem.
Officials have been in deliberations since the event to determine which group is more favored under what circumstances.
“But my mother isn’t dead; she just doesn’t want me.”
Gee, I wonder why….
Same person?
Looks like it.
I’m sure I have asked this before, but isn’t borderline personality disorder just being an arsehole?
A number of writers David quotes claim to suffer from BPD but they also always seem to be revelling in their behaviour, rather than seeking treatment.
I’m sure I have asked this before, but isn’t borderline personality disorder just being an arsehole?
Not true BPD, though people with true BPD may be Arschlöcher, not all Arschlöcher are BPD. the actual DSM diagnostic criteria are here (p6).
In general, being an Arschloch better fits the criteria for Antisocial Personality Disorder (p2 above), but one with APD would rather claim to be BPD as it is something that generally would elicit more sympathy.
Regarding BPD, Arschlöcher, and I don’t recall offhand if it was decided whether this site is Poe’s Law written in a 144 point bold typeface, but the author thinks self-diagnosis of mental conditions are valid.
Read the whole thing, as the kids say, and don’t gender your pets !
If this isn’t a parody site, and it is hard to tell, the author is an a Japanese Bullet Crazytrain.
borderline personality disorder
The folks at Wikipedia have an article on the subject.
It’s called evil.
Well, some people get broken, or break themselves, in ways that can’t be fixed. In a rather horrible sense, they embrace a kind of destiny.
A bit in parallel, I’m noting all the headlines over the most recent set of acid attacks in London—and apparently yes, the most recent set . . . .
There is a comment from the same article of;
However, another of the day’s collection of news announces that Replica firearms putting Birmingham teens at risk as gun crime surges and particularly;
—Particularly with the specification of shooting and not just waving about what appears to be a pistol, the issue isn’t what is used, the issue is the willingness to use . . . Pistol, acid . . .
So what’s the use of restricting firearms and perfectly useful items like knives when those who can use them are inconvenienced, and those who will use them for crimes—the evil—use ’em anyway?
While we’re on the subject of mothering, I’d like to mention that little Cthulhu is all grown up. He sleeps, eats, and poops, so it’s rather like having a cat, except the furniture doesn’t get clawed.
I would like to say a word about this “neurotypical” bullshit. Anyone who uses autism for diversity points is absolutely despicable. Autism’s a terrible handicap to have to live with. At best, every language, your native language included, is a foreign language. I speak with 38 years’ worth of experience with autism. Trivializing this terrible condition to gain diversity points for yourself is unspeakable.
So what’s the use of restricting firearms and perfectly useful items like knives when those who can use them are inconvenienced, and those who will use them for crimes—the evil—use ’em anyway?
It’s all about control Hal.
Looks like it.
On the upside, she has lost a bit of weight.
What?
It’s all about control Hal.
Aahhhhh, but as rather regularly demonstrated by the de facto level of chaos, control of what?
Robert Stacy McCain has some thoughts on the unhappy Ms Allard:
There’s more. None of it particularly flattering.
“I suspect there are, as is often argued, some biological differences between men and women”
Funny, it only took to me until about the fifth grade to suspect that, shortly after I got my first pubic hairs, and some of the girls grew their first tits.
But nothing tops the female acquaintance who told me flat out that “you don’t get it; your [sic] problem is that you think cause and effect are related”.
Wise of her to be wary of you, lest you turn her into a newt.
and some of the girls grew their first tits
You mean they have more than one set, like baby teeth?
“To deny blame for “rape culture” is… rape culture.”
That’s a perfect example of Kafkatrapping, n’est-ce-pas?
Hi David,
Yes, we have more than one set. Each set that grows out responds more strongly to gravity than the set before.
Yes, we have more than one set.
[ Updates files accordingly. ]
David, the top set grow in first.
Is it too early to crack open the wine?
Dicentra – I ask this out of more than idle curiousity: When in this altered state, does it also affect dreams? Specifically can it cause a long period in which a person might not dream, or have any recollection of dreaming, at all?
David – What Pogonip said.
While trying to find info on why the father(s) of these boys haven’t stepped in, I ran across this. Searched here for narcissism and scanned the comments nit seeing anything. Am I the first to see that. Jody Allard wrote an article on narcissistic parenting for WaPo back in January?
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2017/01/05/a-generation-of-narcissists-is-becoming-parents-what-now/?utm_term=.431176e67fd6#comments
Re: ‘don’t gender your pets’
Sex and gender are separate things and are in no way intertwined
I stopped reading right there … since something along the lines of 99.05 to 99.5 percent of people’s ‘gender identity’ aligns with their biological sex, that degree of correlation more than suggests causation.
Hell, the majority of lifetime cigarette smokers will make it to old age, that hasn’t stopped government’s anti-tobacco crusade based on “cigarettes are proven to kill you” stats that are many times less impressive than the gender/sex one.
Smokers who die of lung cancer, emphysema or heart disease in their 80s or 90s are still included in the “tobacco kills” stats. Would they have lived longer had they never smoked? No one knows, honestly.
I don’t think anyone doubts that long-term tobacco smoking is unhealthy, and people with a family history of cancer or heart disease are best off avoiding it, but the hyperbole is just ridiculous.
While the article is a pretty scary depiction of mental illness, it’s a bit scarier to think that an editor and a publisher looked over her work and, instead of saying “We need to get her some help,” said “Run this as is.”
So what’s the use of restricting firearms and perfectly useful items like knives when those who can use them are inconvenienced, and those who will use them for crimes—the evil—use ’em anyway?
Depends which side you’re on.
An update on one of Jody Allard’s sons (which deliciously has to grate on Mummy of the Year):
It’s happening: the 19-year-old Jared Allard, son of insane feminist writer Jody Allard, has submitted his resume to Daily Wire Editor-in-Chief Ben Shapiro after being offered a possible internship during a segment on Friday’s Ben Shapiro Show podcast.
The request was made by Shapiro after Allard wrote a particularly disturbing post for feminist blog Role Reboot in which she called her boys, and all other men, “not safe,” seemingly suggesting they are prospective rapists.
“Okay, if the son of Jody Allard is watching this right now, please write me an email,” said Shapiro during the podcast. “I would be happy to have you intern with us over at The Daily Wire. I think you deserve better than what your mother has provided to you: a label as a potential rapist.”
http://www.dailywire.com/news/18762/son-crazy-feminist-writer-sends-resume-ben-shapiro-amanda-prestigiacomo
Trivializing [autism] to gain diversity points for yourself is unspeakable.
It’s a personal boogeyman of mine, as well. I have a good friend who has what is perversely called “undiagnosed Asperger’s” (basically, he has most of the symptoms but not at a sufficient level to seriously impair his ability to hold a job or maintain some personal relationships). It is heartbreaking to see how hurt he is when he puts his foot in his mouth or behaves inappropriately in a social situation and people react entirely reasonably, because he’s trying so damned hard and on some level he knows he’s never going to get this right. He’s 43.
I know a single mother whose husband lit out for the opposite coast when the severity of their son’s autism became apparent. The child’s essentially unmanageable, has no sense of self-preservation, and is now large enough that when he has a tantrum she can’t control him. It is almost a certainty that he’s going to severely injure or kill himself eventually.
When people claim autism either for style points or as a cover for Cluster B personality disorders, I always want to say “True autists cannot learn correct social behaviour. I’m betting I and this corkscrew could teach you proper social behaviour in about fifteen minutes.”