Our Betters In Love
Let’s turn to the pages of Slate, where left-leaning sophisticates mull the issues of the day. Among which, an obvious question for the woke and well-adjusted:
I (35, male) started dating someone (33, female) recently that I’ve really enjoyed connecting with and have found a higher level of chemistry with than anyone else I’ve dated. It’s exciting and has given me a chance to imagine a stable future with someone, something I’ve struggled to imagine in the past.
Ah, bless. And just in time for the holidays. Brings a tear to the eye.
But there’s something else that’s new for me this year that complicates things: I’ve started seeing sex workers.
At risk of seeming drearily conventional, the words stable future have suddenly taken on an ironic tinge. Still, the headline is memorable:
Do I Have to Tell My New Girlfriend I’m Going to Keep Seeing Sex Workers?
And hey, give the guy credit. He does a pretty good rhetorical dance:
To be clear, I’ve attempted to pursue it in the most ethical manner possible, being careful to consider everyone’s safety and consent. The moral issue of sex buying is a serious one for me, but one that I’ve ultimately come to believe can be ethical in the right context.
How immensely surprising.
I believe seeing a sex worker can make me a better partner. Not unlike seeing a therapist.
Because,
seeing a sex worker allows me to focus on myself.
Which, to date, has apparently been a struggle.
Witness ye the burdens of this selflessness:
Getting certain sexual needs taken care of elsewhere would allow me to better focus my attention and invest in our relationship.
Yes, ladies. He’s a giver.
Well, again, we can’t fault our chappie for lacking boldness. There is, inevitably, some mumbled guff about how bourgeois expectations of faithfulness and monogamy are terribly oppressive, because whoring on the side can lead to “stigma” and “judgment,” both of which really harsh our Slate reader’s buzz.
And entirely unrelated, I also found this:
The Case for Spending the Holidays Solo.
You might even find that you’d like to make a habit of it, if only because there is a charm in the novelty of holiday solitude, like how having breakfast for dinner can sometimes feel like the most deeply disorienting and passionately independent joy available to humanity.
Previously in the pages of Slate. 
If Mr. Side Hustle is comfortable with his newfound love working as a prostitute on the side (to validate and affirm her sense of sexual agency etc. etc and let’s not forget the importance of ‘chemistry’) I would say they are a match made, well … perhaps not in heaven, but maybe in the waiting room of the psychiatrist’s office.
Which, to date, has apparently been a struggle.
LOL
I believe seeing a sex worker can make me a better partner…seeing a sex worker allows me to focus on myself…
Because focusing on yourself and not your partner is a surefire way to ensure her awe of your sack prowess and everlasting devotion (co-dependent relationships need not apply, offer not good in Sector 9 after curfew, YMMV).
I am going to go out on a limb and guess that this guy doesn’t live in one of the eight or so counties in Nevada which are the only place in the US&A where brothel prostitution, excuse me, sex work, is legal, and that he isn’t hiring $1000 a pop call girls, so his “therapists” are probably not latter day Menningers so his bang for the buck is likely exactly that.
Regardless, if this is what he really needs to make his new magic relationship work, I am also guessing the “…higher level of chemistry with than anyone else I’ve dated…” means the previous levels were subterranean.
It’s not exactly a flattering picture of progressive manhood.
prostitution, excuse me, sex work,
You’ve got to love the euphemism. Which is sort of symbolic, I suppose. I mean, taken at face value, chappie wants to behave shamefully, in a conveniently rationalised way, while not feeling shame. What with all that unfair “stigma” and “judgment,” on account of whoring around while in a supposedly important relationship.
I’ve attempted to pursue it in the most ethical manner possible,
Well, that’s alright then – why are you second guessing yourself?
sorry, I can’t get the italics to work…..
one that I’ve ultimately come to believe can be ethical in the right context.
I am curious to know what context makes cheating on a significant other ethical. Not asking for a friend or myself, I simply don’t believe there is one.
sorry, I can’t get the italics to work…..
The scandalous lack of italics has been corrected, madam.
I am curious to know what context makes cheating on a significant other ethical.
I think we’re supposed to believe he’s doing it for her. On account of all the, um, expertise he’ll be acquiring, no doubt selflessly. It will, he says, “allow me to better focus my attention and invest in our relationship.”
. . . having breakfast for dinner . . .
While it’s certainly possible that I’m wrong, I have strong suspicions that the author doesn’t know what this phrase actually means.
. . .can sometimes feel like the most deeply disorienting and passionately independent joy available to humanity.
Or, for that matter, how to tie their own shoelaces.
And then there’s this one:
Again, as an attempt to claw a path to the moral high ground, it leaves something to be desired. Though it may offer a hint as to why the woke are so prone to misery and resentment.
And then there’s this one:
That whole column is a display of psychopathology.
People Have Ridiculous Misinformation About My STD. Should I Stop Disclosing It?
Poor thing. What follows is a melange of misinformation about HPV to justify her not telling.
What do you get when prostitutes wear short skirts in winter?
Icy sex workers
I believe seeing a sex worker can make me a better partner.
Any guesses to his response if his new girlfriend gave him that line when she fessed up she wasn’t about to give up her mattress hire?
He’s looking for a longer-term girlfriend—his wife has a boyfriend, Is the Man I’m Cheating With Lying to Me, Like He Does to His Wife?
This is really quite simple. Get married and stay monogamous. Or stay single and be upfront that all you really interested in is being a player. “Polyamorous” never really works out. Someone along the way is being cheated out of a full, adult relationship … usually all the participants.
I believe seeing a sex worker can make me a better partner.
God, how selfless this guy is. He’s doing it for her. Don’t you dummies understand that?
The more of this crap I see, the more I think it’s made up. Not that I don’t doubt that there are such people out there, it’s just that people who write for ‘journals’ or similar are such lazy twats themselves that I find it hard to believe they’d make the effort that would be required to pull this off for even a couple weeks. I picture some idiot behind a keyboard pondering WTF he’s supposed to come up with today, in a world of competitive woke-ness and attention seeking and such. I think it’s more of a fear of having to get a real job. And if the subject matter undermines our social norms and contributes to the downfall of civilization in even the most minor way, well so much the better.
This is really quite simple.
I suppose that’s the problem with applauding yourself for being terribly radical and deconstructing bourgeois norms. You may well find yourself belatedly and repeatedly learning the unhappy lessons to which those norms had evolved as a corrective response.
Ah, David covered that in Posted by: David | December 17, 2019 at 13:53
Thank God. I hate being alone in my thoughts. The terror.
The word “ethics” has changed over the years hasn’t it…
The same as “he” and “she” have, just there to take up the space and add balance.
If this was the wedding wonder what they have planned for the honeymoon.
Though it may offer a hint as to why the woke are so prone to misery and resentment.
That.
That.
See also this.
Wtp:
“Made up”? How dare you think such a thought about our saintly media! Sir! (Or is is Madam! ? My memory, you know…) Speaking of memory, back in 1980 I shared a house with a sportswriter. And “the grad student who was never there” and “the social worker who was really a rockstar”. But I digress. The sportswriter used to bring home letters, written in the editorial office, of the sort published under the “Ask Abigail” or “Ann Landers” columns, all questions based on stories such as the one our host has regaled us with this morning.
“Written in the office? Say what?” you might ask. Why yes. The news staff ran these little contests to see who could get the most stupid and / or salacious stories published. He claimed that at least one third of such letters published came from such in-house contests, and not just at his metro paper, but nationally. Maybe bs, but I think not, judging from the look of honest glee on his phiz whenever one of his efforts won the contest.
Additional details to how the woke entitled act at weddings above.
The moral issue of sex buying is a serious one for me, but one that I’ve ultimately come to believe can be ethical in the right context
Is ‘self-absorbed’ one word or two? the question just occurred to me
Well, at least he’s not a misogynist like all those anti-feminist types. Though I wonder if his new girlfriend consented to getting chlamydia.
Sorry, couldn’t resist.
And when he next summons a pay-to-play sex worker and his newfound belle is the one to show up, they’ll both understand each other!
And when he next summons a pay-to-play sex worker and his newfound belle is the one to show up, they’ll both understand each other!
Ooh, how romantic. It would kinda be like The Piña Colada Song. Well, kinda.
Sorry, couldn’t resist.
Thank you. My angst was building waiting for it…
If this was the wedding wonder what they have planned for the honeymoon.
The boogaloo is coming.
Additional details to how the woke entitled act at weddings above.
As I like to think I’ve shown over the years, leftism isn’t explicable solely in terms of politics and actual things in the world over which we might reasonably differ. It’s as much, if not more, a psychological phenomenon. In that, if your idea of righteousness, or a good time, is to repeatedly and gleefully disrupt someone else’s innocuous private function, and to then start harassing and assaulting the attendees, then this isn’t about politics. It’s about the kind of person you are.
…You may well find yourself belatedly and repeatedly learning the unhappy lessons to which those norms had evolved as a corrective response.
I think it more likely they will find themselves repeatedly being taught those unhappy lessons and persistently failing to learn them.
It’s about the kind of person you are.
True, but also power corrupts. Absolute power (over culture, finance, and the highest levels of governance) has corrupted them absolutely.
And when he next summons a pay-to-play sex worker and his newfound belle is the one to show up, they’ll both understand each other!
I smell a new hit single. Get Rupert on the phone!
Krep! WTP beat me to it.
Well, it was a bit obvs, innit it?
Does that “higher level of chemistry” include penicillin?
Absolute power (over culture, finance, and the highest levels of governance) has corrupted them absolutely.
True. Tho I also think the desire and willingness to quest for absolute power in the first place is indicative of a certain type of already corrupt/corruptible person, adding selection bias to the mix as well.
And they certainly do quest for it, don’t they?
Progressive men fall into 2 groups.
1). Hate women but love pussy and so make feminist noises
2.). Hate women but need (at least) one to manage their lives, as they can’t.
Her Ladyship is not amused.
David, I’m still having the problem with your twitter links, has anyone else mentioned same?
What do you get when prostitutes wear short skirts in winter?
Frostitutes.
Perhaps he has interests which lay in an unconventional, dare I say, German, direction, which may place undue meaning upon simple domestic routines, such as buying a new coffee table.
Yes, ladies. He’s a giver.
Chlamydia and gonorrhoea mostly.
It’s a serious moral issue, but guy manages to talk himself out of telling his girlfriend.
Doesn’t that stance make the girlfriend a non-consenting participant? People like that used to be called “Users” because they see other people as objects to be manipulated.
Does he plan to tell his sex worker that he’s in a serious relationship with a woman who doesn’t know about her?
Guy needs some serious counseling, but counseling these days would only help him justify his behavior.
David, I’m still having the problem with your twitter links, has anyone else mentioned same?
They work for me, and when I view the Page Source they look entirely normal.
What are your symptoms?
Also: what browser do you use? Operating system? PC or Mac or phone?
Goodbye Labour, a musical tribute.
Oh, Sam, that’s fantastic!
Goodbye Labour, a musical tribute.
“Goodbye crimson brick road, where the dogs of Marxism howl…”
Sam’s excellent discovery reminded me of this, which I hope now comes to pass:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jiUFPjulTW8
Sam: I laughed my ass off. That needs to be annotated on genius.com for those who follow us. (Especially the bint who’s going to be a doctor yet manifests sociopathic behavior.)
Do you have coworkers who seem to be welded to cellphones instead of addressing reality?
Here’s a solution.
Or, apparently it could double as an improvised workout, according to the article . . .